How do I loose my virginity when I have little to no social skills?

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-02-16T19:24:21+00:00

I would worry more about having no social skills than having to lose my virginity.

Losing your virginity is easy and shouldn’t be a goal a guy wants. I understand the peer pressure that you’re dealing it after comparing yourself to your friends “oh they’ve all done it and I haven’t.”

It’s pretty much similar to how teens brag about having done alcohol or cigarettes. In reality, they’re not as big deals as what we thought them to be when we were teens.

If I were you I would be active in a social club or something like a church, build your social circles by getting new friends and start from there.

Losing a virginity is an impact or a side effect of having an intimate relationship, not a goal. So focus on getting closer to a girl in your circle that you find compatible with you. Believe me, when I lost mine the first thing in my mind was “that’s it? This is it? Yeah it felt good having sex the first time in my life but I expected more.”

Crate224 · 2025-02-16T21:00:27+00:00

First of all, learn how to spell. It’s Lose !

SaidThatGuy · 2025-02-16T19:32:50+00:00

I would say start with small steps. Imagine it less of I need to be social, and more of I have to perform an action. Have a chat with the barista. Join a meetup with a group with ur interest. Eventually you ll realise, some people want to talk to you and some people don't. Just value yourself and others will too

As for intimacy... Dont think about it ... People who are looking to get laid are creepy... It will come naturally. You ll meet someone at an event of your interest or class or through a friend or an app. It all starts with "hi"

Be less thirsty, don over think... Just enjoy life... These are my experiences. Feel free to tell us more about yourself and maybe I can suggest some ideas?

CoachSlyDating · 2025-02-16T23:27:59+00:00

Get in better shape. Hit the gym hard. Eat clean unprocessed food. Your confidence will improve once you stop consuming garbage.
Stop pornography if you are using it. That kills your incentive to meet real women.
Start small. You don’t have to approach the 10. You don’t even have to start talking with girls. Just make small talk with cashiers, servers, etc. Develop your social confidence in general. Gradually expand your comfort zone until you are able to directly approach the 10.
Consider hiring a coach to review your dating profile, text messages, hold you accountable, etc.

Cheers,

Coach Sly

EetinAintCheetin · 2025-02-17T00:30:27+00:00

Here is a little secret. The more shame you feel about being a virgin and inexperienced; the harder it will be for you. Being inexperienced is already a difficulty, but being ashamed of it really cements it and will block your progress.

Do the contrary, talk to your friends who are getting laid and tell them: hey, I’m really inexperienced and don’t have any social skills. I’ve been ashamed of this for a long time. Can you help me get over it with some advice?

The less ashamed you start to feel about your inexperience, the easier it will be to lose your virginity. The only way to stop feeling shame is to talk about the thing that you feel ashamed of.

hwheheei · 2025-02-16T19:07:08+00:00

Maybe join some seminar where you learn social skills with other people in a group setting i think that is helpful

Red_Cat69 · 2025-02-17T14:32:40+00:00

Simple, start learning social skills.

Once you can carry a conversation without being 'off', you can move to dating

Intelligent-Roll-763 · 2025-02-17T18:38:42+00:00

I literally lost my virginity last year to a girl I met during the daytime. Took her home and closed the deal in 3 hours the same day I met her . Please feel free to DM me I love talking about my transformation!

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-02-17T19:54:29+00:00

Go to the gym. Work on fashion. Work on being more social. I lost mine at 19 and tons of guys do later. Start putting in the self improvement work now

poly_nerdy_panda · 2025-02-19T17:09:15+00:00

join a jiu jitsu gym to gain social skills and confidence ... take a improve class

AdStriking5665 · 2025-02-19T22:02:44+00:00

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Title	How do I loose my virginity when I have little to no social skills?
Author	AppropriateBoss2585
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Comments	27
Date	February 16, 2025 7:03 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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