How do I start from an absolute beginner who has no experience and only been to a club once?

CoachSlyDating · 2025-02-22T18:22:32+00:00

You won’t get good unless you are willing to go out alone. That’s what separates the men from the boys here. Sink or Swim. Yes it’s uncomfortable at first but in the long run you will be far better off.

Going out with friends is often just a crutch to stay in your friend group rather than approaching new people. It’s not necessary to have friends at the venue and might hold you back from meeting new people.

You might need a coach to hold you accountable and walk you through the process with baby steps. It will accelerate your results 100x without getting burned out.

Rhino3750ss · 2025-02-22T18:59:52+00:00

When starting with low experience, focus on perceived preselection until you gain actual preselection. The biggest demonstrator of selection is outcome independence.

You don't need to put on an "act". Practice the behaviors until they become your default, no different than practicing free throws so you can become good at it.

There are things you can do to see positive response from women in the real world even with zero experience.

Go out solo if you have to and start with interactions that you would normally have during your routines like with the gas station girl or the Dunkin chick. Then move onto any woman you naturally cross paths with, but don't go out of your way to "cold approach" with motive until you are comfortble..focus on regular greetings and regular conversations.

If the girl lifts her vocal tone or hastens her speech cadence, keep yours steady. If she makes fidgety movements, keep your movements disciplined. This shows you have emotional control and you aren't feeling "giddy" in the face of beauty. Doing just these bare basics during regular conversation will often result in the girl throwing iois or even initiate flirting or casual physical touch because you aren't displaying "try hard" energy. You might see the difference in women's mannerisms towards you on day 1. If the girl starts to flirt with you, u can ask her out because she chose you and not the other way around.

It don't matter if your competition is taller, richer, has more status. If you behave in a more preselected manner than them, you will be the priority.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-02-22T18:25:05+00:00

Day and night games are only means to your goal. Doesn’t matter what your means are if your social skills suck.

What I’m saying is your focus should be on improving your social skills. Whether you get a girl from a club, a grocery store, a church, your neighborhood, school, or office, it all depends on whether you got game (read: social skills).

grldgcapitalz2 · 2025-02-22T23:53:29+00:00

i would give you and everybody else the same advice i give myself: stop being a pussy and risk the embarassment that is literally and objectively all you have to lose

tonyferguson2021 · 2025-02-23T00:58:57+00:00

Go backpacking around Europe or someplace, stay in hostels, meet randoms. OR just find some other way to take yourself out of your regular environment or location, like as far away as possible

squidguy_mc · 2025-02-23T11:39:30+00:00

Not really about dating but if you want to go the the club i promise you at some time there will be opportunities. Sometimes you just need new people, maybe if you go to college or to a new workplace or have some roommates. I was 17m and never went clubbing in my life and got in a new class, and there was a school party in a club where i went to with people from my new class and now we go clubbing like 1 time per month. So just be hopefull, if you signal others that you are willing to party and get drunk there will be some opportunities.

Title	How do I start from an absolute beginner who has no experience and only been to a club once?
Author	AppropriateBoss2585
Upvotes	4
Comments	17
Date	February 22, 2025 6:10 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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