I kind of wanted to send a follow up to my story. I posted about a year ago so it’s been lost and mixed in with all of the other stories and situations posted here. But anyhow I wanted to kind of put this out there for all of the other guys that are fresh at this divorce thing or in the process of. Mind you I am still learning every day but I am at a year officially divorced this Friday.

The good:

I am in the best shape of my life. I fell in love with “bodybuilding”/getting in shape. This helped me in my journey of healing. It allowed me to feel good about myself again, by presenting myself in a way that equals “look good, feel good”. I cut out all the bullshit food in my life, and hit the weights 6 days a week. Also had some side perks one being women became more attracted to me. I also was able to find a home for myself because of my finances. I was fortunate enough to not have an ex wife who took me for everything. I got a promotion. Being divorced gave me the freedom to travel for business and get to explore and meet so many new people. My overall freedom has been so amazing. That’s one thing that I am so thankful for is my freedom!!!

The bad:

I lost my best friend, my everything. Had it all. The cars. Boat. House. I had it all. It sucked saying goodbye to my “tangible” accomplishments. I had in laws I actually loved and got along with. No more of them. It was like losing a parent. I was lonely beyond belief. I couldn’t get out of my head. Drove me fucking nuts all the time. I felt abandoned. I cried more than I ever have in my life.

The ugly:

Women. Women. Women. They will fuck your world up. When I got in shape, started being confident, and taking care of my appearance. I attracted more which was awesome! For the first time I felt women being attracted to me. So naturally being a dude. I took on all comers. Didn’t matter I went out with so many on dates, blew so much money, invested way too much time in women, especially on the apps. It’s fun but nothing usually comes of it except craziness. So fellas just take it easy and one day at a time. Try not to fuck anything that walks or invest your time in women that are a waste. Take care of you first!

I hope this brief synopsis of a year can give you fellas some confidence. If anyone needs someone to talk to. My DM’s are open.