Getting serious relationships

Plastic_Friendship55 · 2025-04-13T01:04:11+00:00

You need to have an open ending when you have your first dates. If your goal is to get laid you can reach that without many difficulties but then your game ends. You dont have more to give. You don’t have the experience nor the knowledge so you get insecure and fall back to what you knows works. But it’s useless because now you have a different goal.

You should flirts just as much. And having sex on the first date never excluded any serious relationships. But you have to continue after that.

You need to change your mindset from the one you have now where it’s either being a fuckboi or a friend, to have the mindset that you want to get to know this woman. All of her. And that takes several dates.

If it helps see a second date as a new first date. But much easier. And then continue dating her until you end in a relationship or it doesn’t work and it needs to be stopped.

The worst that can happen is that you have sex with her several times instead of once.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-04-13T04:13:46+00:00

I don’t want her to think im looking for just sex.

Has she told you that she’s thinking about that? If not then why did you worry about something that hasn’t happened yet?

how do you change your game to get relationships

Look, a serious relationship is not (just) a status. The game doesn’t need to be changed fundamentally.

If both of you are very compatible, the relationship will keep flowing continuously almost like effortlessly because each of you attracts each other not just physically but also mentally.

So my suggestion is to NOT look for a relationship, but to find someone compatible with you. The relationship will be the outcome of that, not the other way around. It’s gonna be useless and waste of time in the end if you get a serious relationship just for the sake of it if you’re not compatible.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-04-13T01:58:37+00:00

To get strong relationships, you do everything the same way just slower. Instead of having sex on the first date, you delay it to the 3rd, escalate slower and build more comfort. Have a little bit of the boyfriend frame but keep the player frame dominant. See my post on comfort.

Like you said you have no flirting, so you have to start doing that again in order for them to come out on second dates. Regardless of what you do, doing pickup properly will still result in her thinking you're a player. So just simply accept it and show her over time (once you have sex with her) that you're not a player though your actions.

everydayguy_ · 2025-04-20T04:11:42+00:00

Get your line in order first. Get your career/financial goals sorted, personal goals you might have, social life etc etc

And then get right with all the inner game stuff. The relationship between yourself and the mirror.

Create a life according to your own needs and vision. Only then will a relationship work. If you’re going out there like most guys, kind of aimless , coasting and desperate for a sense of worth and validation the whole thing is a disaster. Trust me, seen it happen too many times with my peers and even my own Dad.

Title	Getting serious relationships
Author	No-Buy7459
Upvotes	1
Comments	4
Date	April 13, 2025 12:04 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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