It's happened a couple of times to me now. The most recent was where on our second date we got naked and were about to have sex, and when I positioned her to give me a blowjob she just said 'No'. I ignored it then tried again a minute later and she said "I don't know if you're clean (meaning free of STDs). I love giving blowjobs but I don't know you that well".
Isn't that fantastic, you've just told me you love sucking off other guys but won't do it to me. Sex was still on the table. I however handled it wrong and got butthurt and ended up losing the lay because she left. In hindsight I should have at least pretended it didn't bother me and proceeded to fuck her.
Doing so would then put me in another position I've been in the past with another girl, who was a regular fuckbuddy who just refused to give me blowjobs. How do you handle situations like this, where she'll fuck you but won't blow you? Being second date or simple fuckbuddy situations I don't know how or whether dread game would work here, because there's very little they or I have invested.
Let's face it. It's a test. And she uses this test on most if not all the guys she fucks. What are the guys who pass the tests and end up getting her to enthusiastically blow them saying to her to pass the test? If I just say "No problem, not a big deal" and ignore the blowjob thing, I haven't gotten butthurt about it but then I'm also not getting the blowjob.
I'll make it clear that the sex is still good, so I wouldn't want to end it over the blowjob situation. But I also realize that the longer I accept her frame of 'we can fuck but I wont blow you' the more she'll see me as a chump. So what's the right play here?
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