We are shamed for having standards, for caring about our partner's past, for thinking and wondering.

I am average height, above average looks, average size, and high income. I am dating an average girl, income not nearly as high, but well educated and smart.

It came out some of her past relationships (mostly hookups) were with much taller/fit man. I know I am not the best looking. I am not tall and ripped. Sex with me probably won't be as passionate and fulfilling.

Its not a matter of being insecure. I know the reason why I am seen as an attractive partner at 30 while I was ignored at 20. Its simply job, income, and the desire to settle down.

Financially stable, trustworthy, dependable, driven... These are not words I want to hear. I am not a workhorse. I am not a slave.

Why do women feel entitled to judge us on caring about their past. If I cannot evaluate someone based on their past, what am I supposed to evaluate someone on?