If you create a completely new, anonymous account and search "beating my wife" on social platforms, you’ll mostly find older videos with low engagement, many of which include people, primarily men, condemning the content. In contrast, searching for the reverse scenario yields a far greater number of recent, high, engagement videos. These videos often reach millions of likes within days, and even the least popular among them have significantly more shares than those in the first category. Rarely do they face pushback from viewers, whether men or women.

In the comment sections, you’ll find alarming levels of misandry. Phrases like “kill male fetuses” and acronyms like “KAM” (Kill All Men) are not only posted openly but often receive thousands of likes. What’s more concerning is that many of these comments are made by adults posting under their real names, seemingly without fear of consequence.

Even usernames like “ibeatmyhusband” are openly used by content creators who tie these handles to their personal profiles. There's no anonymity or shame, only bold declarations.

A common justification offered by these individuals is that men already behave badly, so expressing hatred against them online is fair game. When women challenge this mindset, they’re often dismissed with remarks like “there’s no way you’re a woman saying this,” “men wouldn’t defend you,” or “misogyny is real, misandry isn’t.”

Personally, I believe misandry is often more insidious than misogyny. Many misogynistic individuals tend to be uneducated or unaware of the harm they cause. In contrast, misandrists often do understand the pain caused by sexism but choose to perpetuate and celebrate it anyway.

Misandry online also appears to be more visible and socially accepted than misogyny. Look at recent trends, each month seems to bring a new wave of man-hating content. I’ve seen people close to me, including young boys, deeply affected by this environment. On platforms like TikTok, man-hating content is so widespread that even women who are just casual users, are almost certain to encounter it. Not to mention, even men encounter it. By contrast, misogynistic content is more niche and typically limited to specific subcommunities.

Yet despite all of this, many recent studies from feminist, leaning publications continue to claim that misogyny is more prevalent online than misandry, an assertion that seems increasingly disconnected from what we see in real, time online activity.

Check out the subreddits r/everydaymisandry if you want to learn a bit more about how serious all this really is.

I did use AI to make the writing better just a little bit because I genuinely don't have the time to edit the draft myself right now. Apologies if that bothers you :)