This post will be 3 parts. Where part 3 will explain how both posts connect.

PART 1: SCHRODINGER CONSENT.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8r91uKg/

This video is what we get after years of Feminists saying "consent" is sexy. Sure the woman in the video may be somewhat Conservative. But let's not pretend here. I know we have all heard similar talking points from women who believe in a cakism brand of feminism.

It reveals the double bind men face, be cautious and respectful, and you're seen as awkward or unsexy; take initiative, and you risk being labeled pushy or worse. This emotional contradiction is exactly the kind of social conditioning that creates confusion and unfair expectations in modern dating.

Men are expected to lead without overstepping, read signals perfectly, and suppress their own fears of rejection. At the same time, vulnerability is praised rhetorically but often punished socially when men express it.

These mixed messages create a no-win situation that leaves many feeling anxious, resentful, or checked out entirely.

PART 2: NEUTER MEN VS HYPERSEXUAL MEN.

Note the neuter doesn't always refer to removing reproductive organs. The term can also be used to describe men that are less sexual. And also men are hated for being hypersexual or at least stereotype as hypersexual in the media. And then you have Feminists saying men use the patarichy objectify women bodies.

Society traps men in a double bind by shaming them both for having strong sexual desires and for showing little to none. If a man is too assertive, he's labeled predatory; if he's reserved or uninterested, he's mocked as weak, gay, or undesirable. Masculinity is constantly policed from both extremes, demanding dominance while punishing its expression. This contradiction creates deep confusion about what it means to be "a real man."

Men are told to be emotionally open, yet mocked when they are too sensitive. They're told to respect boundaries, yet expected to take the lead and make the first move. The result is a toxic expectation to be confident, dominant, restrained, and emotionally fluent, all at once. These conflicting standards foster shame, anxiety, and isolation, all while society denies the bind even exists.

This is why I think women, especially Feminists would still freak out if more men became neuter. Because if more men became neuter, disengaging from sex, romance, or assertiveness. it would challenge the traditional power dynamic and emotional validation many still expect from men. Feminists advocating for equality may still subconsciously rely on traditional male roles they claim to reject.

PART 3: THE CONCLUSION.

This is the cycle of shit. Where men are encourage to be a certain way in society. But society still demonized men for acting this way though. And then society still judges men, when they find alternative ways to act.