The 'Unicorns don't exist'/AWALT pill is the hardest to swallow.

Because we all long to be special.

And believing that our partner is special makes us feel special by extension.

You can't swallow the pill that your woman, or any woman, is not special in one year. Maybe 5. Or 10.

Because that would mean you'd have to admit that you yourself are not special either.

Even though you might actually be special based on a number of metrics.

It took me a long time to accept the fact that all women are women, and they are all influenced by their biology and do what they perceive is in their best interest. And the same goes for men.

Women think/behave as their peers do. People are very malleable, and easily influenced, women even more so.

All women are sluts.

Their biology dictates that they want to be impregnated by a high quality mate, so they spread their legs whenever that opportunity arises and feel there is little risk and negative consequence. Especially when they are young, full of hormones and naive.

The way I see it, the only difference is the degree to which that sluttiness has been exercised. And this is determined by who raised them, where, who their peers were and her personality. Basically, did anyone set a standard, did she have opportunity to deviate from that standard, and were there negative consequences for deviating from that standard?

  • If she had a strong bond with her father and he set a proper patriarchical frame,
  • she was raised in a relatively small village,
  • and so were her peers, who all got into LTRs at a young age,
  • she went to college, didn't join a sorority, finishing her studies asap with good grades,
  • is an introverted/reserved person.

If all those stars align, you might have a girl with a low bodycount on your hands.

I've met a few of these girls. They weren't perfect either, had their own psychological issues/limitations, which contributed to their low BC. I've also met girls who were great in terms of compatibility, fun, even loyalty and honesty. Only to have my gut wrenched when I inquired about their sexual history, and they spilled the beans. How quick the illusion of a 'special' connection can disappear.

Again low BC doesn't mean she isn't a slut. Or more properly phrased, that she could never be one. That she won't sleep with an attractive guy with good game on date #1. It doesn't mean she will only want to sleep with 'good', 'high quality', 'reliable' men. The only girls who don't hook up with guys on date #1 are girls who understand the game and how that often plays out to their detriment. I've never met a girl who I thought never has nor would (at least want to) fuck an attractive man until after he has committed and emotionally invested. That's a learned behavior after a series of missteps that led to heartbreak.

Don't get me wrong, a high body count is definitely a con. But I'm at a point where I don't see a virgin as special or how that guarantees an everlasting, happy LTR. Or how that would make a better mother of your children.

Compatibility, loyalty, honesty, trust and how you are treated rank higher. If you find a unicorn like that without the bodycount, cherish her, and please let her be studied.