Plate asks why going on a weekend trip with a bunch of guys is a red flag

redpillschool · 2024-02-07T16:46:55+00:00

all of whom I know casually & 1 being one of my best friends

Why is your best friend taking your plate on a weekend trip?

Either way, if she's a plate then the move is soft next. You weren't vetting her for anything more anyway.

If she was a girlfriend, that's a hard next.

Smuggler-Tuek · 2024-02-07T15:34:58+00:00

As others have said it’s a plate so no big deal. What you’re describing here is female solipsism. Just accept that you will never be able to reason against it. That’s why you never bother explaining yourself on matters like that. Either she complies or she leaves.

Accomplished_Fan_487 · 2024-02-07T15:30:39+00:00

Why are you explaining this to her? Seems to me like an enormous waste of time.

ThrowawayYAYAY2002 · 2024-02-07T16:41:50+00:00

All you need to know now is that she has to remain a plate forever.

In my experience only a hoe would ask such a thing.

TXJohn83 · 2024-02-07T14:42:45+00:00

Dude, it's a plate.... let the guys have fun with it, then drop it, or understand that the difference between 1001 dicks and 1006 dicks is nothing to be worried about.

Side note this woman seems to have even to many problems to ever get a wife or even gf tag...

Elysium____ · 2024-02-07T15:29:50+00:00

You call her a plate yet you speak of her like she is your gf and it bothers you enough u came and posted.

I can smell a whiff of oneitis in the air AND by you acting the way you did you just let her know u have big feelings….

L on catching feelings for a plate that likes to party

Even bigger L for mentioning it to her.

Such a rookie move, it makes you look weak bc u indirectly declared it to her. U were in essence sitting in the friend zone banging a promiscuous woman (her) and waiting, then lost control of your emotions.

Hey here are all my cards and my intentions are obvious I hope you feel the same….women do that not men….

If she is a plate treat her like one don’t act like a beta in the FWB zone..Were u hoping she’d catch feelings too? U need to cut ties before your oneitis grows and a party girl takes you for a ride that will take you awhile to recover from.

Don’t spin plates if u catch feelings too easy. It’s self sabotage

Promiscuous women, once they know the guy is hooked on them, will usually abuse the guy, just fyi. They like the chase. Common BPD traits amongst promiscuous women

big_ass_package · 2024-02-07T20:21:32+00:00

She's a plate let her go and drop off

Lake_Silent · 2024-02-07T15:33:12+00:00

What are you DEERing to her?

"Why is it a red flag that I'm going on a trip without you and with other guys?"

Your response: HAHAHHA that's cute

Razzmatazz32 · 2024-02-07T18:05:13+00:00

HSP already taught this. If this happens, either you fucked up or the girl is fucked up. In either case, answer is the same - next or "fuck only" box.

Going by this post, it's the former. You talk and think too much. Just up the alpha and you won't have these issues to begin with.

toobadnosad · 2024-02-07T14:51:06+00:00

A plate behaves like a plate 🤷‍♂️

Elegant-String-2629 · 2024-02-07T19:54:54+00:00

if youre not dating her, then who gives a shit where she goes lmao

AcrobaticRhubarb2147 · 2024-02-07T20:21:19+00:00

If she's a plate, she is one of many. You are not exclusive to be establishing rules of conduct for her and your rules of conduct apparently don't apply to you? Is this upside down clown world?

ocultada · 2024-02-07T18:56:27+00:00

So are you marrying this woman? If not what are you doing?

Pelon01 · 2024-02-07T22:19:19+00:00

Hard to have this expectation from a plate. If you were in a relationship or had interest in one with her then it would be more reasonable to have this expectation.

It’s controlling on your part to want her to conform to some behavior that is becoming of a relationship given that you already stated you don’t want that. You’re also lowkey gaslighting her because you’re making her think that it’s behavior that she needs to conform to so that you will see her as relationship material but you don’t have that intention.

papiwithbeard · 2024-02-07T18:15:45+00:00

I don’t understand what you’re getting so worked up over if she’s just a plate. Either what you make sure to mention around 23 times is true and she is just that and therefore this whole post is redundant because why even bother to explain this to a plate, just soft next her. Or you’re trying to influence her into not going which would make her more than a plate.

AnonTheGreat01 · 2024-02-07T14:32:00+00:00

Not like all girls are like this, btw.

Another plate told me last week that she could never respect a guy that would just let her do whatever in terms of how she dressed, where she went and how late she came home, alcohol consumption etc.

But she's probably the exception to the rule.

Aubrey_D_Graham · 2024-02-07T15:31:39+00:00

You're quoting Tate bro? Gtfoh.

Read more sidebar. Why are you mate guarding a plate?

PiperBigBell · 2024-02-07T16:36:53+00:00

This is the point of a vetting process. You observe her for a period of 10 months to 1.5 years to see her consistency and thought processes before making her your girl and becoming responsible for her. But the bigger picture here, is why do you care who she fucks? She fucked men before you, will want to fuck other men while with you, and will fuck men after you.

As long as she's complying with what you want (and no i dont count rules based on insecurities) then why do you care? The point of having a plate or gf is compliance with your vision for your life. If you take her on as a gf, then you essentially cosign her past, her history as a green flag and something that you work with and understand.

You dudes care too much about sexual validation and who is with who. All this post boils down too is fear of losing sexual access.

Your analogies you gave your plate are all based on sexual insecurity or weakness which is why she keeps arguing with you. True logic, women don't argue with, in fact they will agree with you. But if they even think your thought process is 1% based on insecurity and weakness you get problems.

Frankly I don't even think you believe your own nonsense. Anything you teach a woman should be lived experience, not something you heard from a masculinity guru or anyone else who preys on young men who don't know shit about life because they aren't in the field, i.e. you.

AcrobaticRhubarb2147 · 2024-02-07T20:30:53+00:00

and why are you calling her a plate and saying you are stringing her along and the last paragraph says "I don't even think they grasp that a relationship..."

Dude, you are the one who does not fully grasp that you are the plate and you don't have a relationship. Why would she listen to a thing you say when you have not locked her down? You already had the LTR conversation and you took a pass. So, she is not doing anything wrong to you. You are acting like a BPer

It seems like you are in delulu land and not her. She's got your number loud and clear and you came to the internet whining and crying about her behavior with zero self-awareness that you are just telling on yourself.

Conical90 · 2024-02-07T16:23:32+00:00

Plates are plates for a reason. You shouldn’t care.

EdvardMunch · 2024-02-08T04:21:04+00:00

In a sense what you are showing is a desire to hang on to the ideal reasonable woman.

Unless a woman was raised in hard lands, few men, and a great father she will respond to herd mentalities.

Spinning plates is fun, but it's also a waste of time if youre not trying to get laid. A good relationship with a woman requires emotional stability on our part, but giving her the tingles is a direct threat to her security that you're doing it with other women. A relationship means you must act like a pussy whether you are one or not. Go see some married men, it's hard to tell sometimes and that's when you may have met a relationship master.

FreitasAlan · 2024-02-07T21:20:11+00:00

I’m honestly curious. How do you know something is LTR material? What about AWALT? Any material on that?

pilot333 · 2024-02-07T23:45:09+00:00

Choose higher quality girls. Writing or thinking about any of this is a waste of time. NAWALT.

snakeysnake0 · 2024-02-08T14:25:52+00:00

do plates really warrant this level of attention and analysis?

iwearahoodie · 2024-02-07T15:52:17+00:00

Bro I couldn’t give a fuck if a girl I’m with wanted to go anywhere with any gender. They’re not birds you keep in a cage. You sound insecure. If she did hook up with someone else then be happy for her and move on because she’s not your wife anyway and good luck to her if she finds someone that she wants to be with long term jfc bro.

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sjswander94 · 2024-02-08T01:09:04+00:00

I haven’t been on here in a minute. TLDR. If your no is pushed back on its 1 of 2 things. 1 relationship isn’t in your frame your not respected 2 she’s too far gone to fix.

the99percent1 · 2024-02-08T04:32:59+00:00

WelderStrict2730 · 2024-02-08T06:29:52+00:00

nahh i bet she wouldnt like u hanging out with a bunch of girls by urself either

veepeein8008 · 2024-02-08T13:26:24+00:00

The way I see it, if you say “no” then she has two options: obey, or do what she wants.

As long as you make it known in a non-bitch way that if she goes you’re done then it’s literally just her choice. If she goes, okay cool bye. If she doesn’t, okay cool hi.

I never really have to elaborate on why my girl can’t do something. I just say:

“nah not happening” she says “but yada yada”, so I tell her simply “you can do whatever you want. You’re your own person & you have free will. But if you do that, then it will change things”

Bitches are so scared of change. You don’t even gotta tell her what you’d do 😂 shit idek what I’d do. Depends how serious the violation was. Might cut her off 100%, might ease off, might stop doing certain things for her, etc. Honestly it’s never gotten past that point for me, they just understand that I’ll view it as a violation & they don’t want problems.

In your specific scenario, yeah if the girl went on that trip then I’d prob just cut her off altogether. Depends how serious it is though.

Can’t really call her a plate if you’re having these discussions & that sensitive to her decisions though tbh. If you control what she does then that’s your girl, not a plate. Doesn’t have to mean it’s your girlfriend or it’s official, but it’s definitely your girl.. not a “plate”

Title	Plate asks why going on a weekend trip with a bunch of guys is a red flag
Author	AnonTheGreat01
Upvotes	182
Comments	86
Date	February 7, 2024 2:24 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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