I need to let go

clown367 · 2025-07-29T21:23:53+00:00

Every week it's going to get easier. I'm almost at my 1 year mark post separation. And I'll tell you what. I didn't start "not" thinking about her until after maybe 6 months. I rushed into the dating scene and hurt some women emotionally. I guess I was so hurt seeing her with someone else that it made me become someone that I'm not. Let the hurt, hurt. You'll soon become stronger. We men hurt more in the first year, especially if you weren't the one that initiated the divorce or separation. But usually the tables turn about a few years down the road when they start missing the stability they had with their ex-husband. Also, they usually get ran through and hurt by other men because they want to have fun and be happy. It's going to get better sir, you're not alone. You got this!

Specific_Mountain716 · 2025-07-21T22:01:06+00:00

I never went through divorce but a 6 year relationship with a separated woman who went back to the husband for the kids. I learned from both sides point of views as after that i dated and gotten broken up with someone else. Love and life isnt perfect nor lasts forever

Content-Class1259 · 2025-07-21T08:09:52+00:00

Two months is early days, things might get better soon, but it’s a process. I’m 4 years out and I still have those thoughts, but they don’t drag me down into the depths of despair.

I tried therapy, but it felt like they were just preaching common sense at me. Deep down you know what you want, but I’ll tell you this, it’s not what you need.

We all look for the reasons, hope for the explanation, but when you think back hard, they did so many things without both reason or explanation, so we won’t be getting it anytime soon, and understanding that frees you.

Stupid me was a bit smarter than the average bear, and my work in the IT industry helped me track down much of the truth….honestly, worst thing I ever did! To be confronted by the truth, to then watch her lie and squirm, it’s not one bit good for you.

wallydog71 · 2025-07-21T05:24:46+00:00

Thank you

upvotersfortruth · 2025-07-21T04:49:30+00:00

Two months in - don't beat yourself up about not getting over it. You're knee-deep in the process. Give yourself time, I know you want the feelings to be over but that's not how it works, exactly. Journal, therapy, write what you want to message her in your notes section, record fake voicemails, whatever it takes to let all the emotions through you. The ok days will become most days. And the random phone calls won't be able to throw you for a loop anymore.

Title	I need to let go
Author	wallydog71
Upvotes	3
Comments	11
Date	July 21, 2025 1:27 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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