How do you attract an alpha male ver long distance

Wife_and_Mama · 2025-07-28T15:08:03+00:00

Was anyone ever successful in doing this ?

I doubt it. Men in this situation don't need to date long distance. No sexual chemistry is making up for the headache and road block that is an LDR. You'd do better to date locally.

giozimmer · 2025-07-28T16:28:29+00:00

It seems like he is not that interested. I would move on. Long distance relationship (for a while) can work out but you two need to be really in love and commited

brownnbunnie · 2025-07-28T17:41:42+00:00

I started long-distance dating at 16, I've since stopped. Some manage to make it work but for me it was a dead-end. I much prefer to be around and with my partner, physical affection and presence is important to me.

OkKaleidoscope9696 · 2025-07-29T05:14:59+00:00

How far of a distance is it?

Nerdslayer2 · 2025-07-28T15:57:52+00:00

I think we need more information. Is he actually your boyfriend, or were you just hooking up? Does he love you? Like Wife_and_Mama said, a guy with options is going to choose an option that is actually near him the vast majority of the time. There could potentially be an exception if he is already very invested in you though.

How long have you been long distance? When could you potentially not be long distance anymore?

Standard_Fondant · 2025-07-28T16:53:02+00:00

Long distance will always be a challenge, and there are men who can do it. Think, COVID and all the lockdowns and restrictions. But there has to always be a date set to meet physically and he has to initiate it. If he wanted to, he would.

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Full text: We had a good sexual chemistry. Things were going well. But long distance has been a challenge. On top of it i am anxiously attached. (working on it)

Help me please... He has a few options in same town too.

Was anyone ever successful in doing this ?

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LateralThinker13 · 2025-07-29T20:13:38+00:00

It can only work if it's a) for a short, defined duration, and b) you visit each other regularly.

Otherwise your relationship is just a fantasy.

Trick-Consequence-18 · 2025-07-29T20:04:59+00:00

This is going to be loving but harsh. If I’m wrong, please disregard but I see a lot of younger me and friends in your conundrum.

First, good for you for acknowledging your anxious attachment.

This is a classic anxious-avoidant relationship. You are in the fantasy of what it could be and what it would mean if he chose you (over the distance, over other women; the validation and gratification you would feel being chosen and how great everything would be). He is a classic avoidant—that’s why you know about the other women and why he likely gets something out of a sexy long distance thing with you and why he has several women going at the same time too.

You can’t change him of his approach. It really isn’t even about him. It’s about what you think being with him would give you.

You need to heal that anxious attachment for yourself, then you’ll find better prospects. You may still end up being somewhat anxiously attached and choosing someone who is somewhat avoidant, but gosh wouldn’t it be nice to get somewhere closer to the middle in attachment styles?

Here’s what I would suggest you consider: he is unavailable to you, how are you being unavailable to yourself? And then try to solve that. This is an amazing exercise because it does two things for you. You stop obsessing on him AND you start refocusing on yourself. This makes you more magnetic (yes, to him probably, but also to more available amazing men).

I love this turnaround exercise for anything and use it still as a reformed anxiously attached married woman. ‘So-and-so is making me feel xyz, how am I xyz-ing myself?’

Title	How do you attract an alpha male ver long distance
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Date	July 28, 2025 2:54 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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