Been married for 14 years. Have a daughter 10yo, and son 7yo.

The wife is telling my daughter and son stuff they don’t need to hear. Not getting into details but toxic stuff that is meant to smear me as a “monster” and is involving them and scarring them for life. I took videos of it. In my daughter’s face and sons trying to make them hate me. The worst stuff someone who allegedly loves you could ever say to your own children.

My wife takes Xanax and drinks too much, and too often. Never takes accountability for herself, gaslights the shit out of me in front of the kids, puts words in my mouth I didn’t say, and even put her hands on me in front of the kids tonight.

All because she told me earlier that she is done, and wants to separate, and I said I have already consulted with someone (because this has been going on for awhile), and I’m ready to go to war for my kids whenever she is. Which was probably a mistake in hindsight, and I shouldn’t have said.

She also lost her phone tonight, because she was intoxicated, and I went to look in my truck for it, and she tried to lock me out of the house. Then proceeded to say “I fucking hate you.” In front of the kids, and then said I wish there was a way I could kick him out of this house.

My daughter already has anxiety problems (I wonder why) and my wife was just feeding her poison and kept on until my daughter was visibly shaken, and crying saying she “doesn’t understand, and wants us to be a family, and still go on family vacations.” While she is blocking me physically from trying to comfort her and tell her this has nothing to do with you, and to pray about it. It was heartbreaking and I felt so bad for her, and wished I could’ve teleported her to a happier place.

We share: A house, a lot, a boat, bank accounts, retirement, investments. Yet, she has our savings in her name thru Wealthfront. Do I reach out to them myself and get onto the account?

What are my options moving forward? What next steps do I need to take financially? Do I need to sale anything? Do I need to file any reports with any type of organization over my children’s welfare? Do I need to reach out to any type of addiction/alcohol organization? How do I protect my children from this stuff?

I took the high road, but yet still let my kids know I love them, and I will always be their dad. And just told them, they know right from wrong.

Of note too. I have years of audio/video recordings that back up the psychological abuse, and physical abuse. I have a DCF report someone submitted about her behaviors towards the children and me. I have an X-Ray of my finger she broke that had to be surgically repaired. I have text messages.

I need as much advice as I can get. Please help me figure this out. Thank you guys.