I have an avoidant attachment style.

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metalincarn8 · 2025-09-15T06:18:53+00:00

Hey there, fellow avoidant. Seek some therapy if you can afford it, or, writing def helps. Just need to find out what scares ya about being intimate and vulnerable. I'm working on it too ATM. I'm in a situation where I just broke it off with my gf of 2 years, basically cuz we reached a point where it was more serious and ive been overanalyzing whether im making the right desecions about it, or if i truley feel enough for this person to carry on, etc, etc. Maybe try talking to your partner about it, if it's gonna end anyway might as well try to solocite some answers by just basically talking. When you say the things you're feeling out loud, it brings a lot of perspective, I feel. Cheers!

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-09-15T03:15:40+00:00

Nah I do it too. 4-8 months on average. If you have game and options it’s pretty hard not too. I don’t really have a solution

eablokker · 2025-09-15T17:35:02+00:00

Same here, and I also want to know.

There is this guy on YouTube who is an attachment style expert and he has this video on avoidant attachment

https://youtu.be/5L8wzU0oItU?si=FvBjxci8F-ILXqee

I can’t vouch for his techniques but he sounds legit.

RipArtistic8799 · 2025-09-14T23:31:00+00:00

Well my therapist told me I should stop avoiding fights with my partner. So then we got in this very big fight right away, because I stopped biting my lip over stuff that annoyed me. I'm not sure if this is working or not working to be honest.

DreamShort3109 · 2025-09-15T02:58:18+00:00

Are you a girl? Because if so it’s good you feel bad about what you did to us guys.

Title	I have an avoidant attachment style.
Author	sweetboyhoang
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Date	September 14, 2025 11:25 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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