I don't know what to do.. I am gonna break some day.

PastDifficulty7 · 2025-09-25T14:01:28+00:00

Some of my hot takes.

I thought, “I love pictures of handsome men with kittens.” and then I read your post. I am sorry your self-confidence has taken a hit, but your looks are not the issue.
Good choice on Webby. I wish you both a lifetime of love and companionship. Cats are so good for our nervous systems.
You are dealing with some really deep stuff. Dealing with our shadow parts is hella scary. Therapy is super helpful by creating a safe place to understand our shadow selves. I have lived a pretty long time, and I have yet to personally meet someone who was truly dark or truly lazy. It’s all trauma and insecurity at the bottom, and therapy is the best way to get to those parts of you.

4. Don’t over correct after a breakup by making yourself more appealing to others. Spend the energy on improving your relationship with yourself. You will eventually find someone who values your personality as it is; you just haven’t found them yet.

WoodpeckerCapital167 · 2025-09-25T14:16:38+00:00

Kitten needs its” hooman”

live_edge_biped · 2025-09-25T14:05:52+00:00

the line between darkness and light runs through everyones heart, my friend. you are not alone in that. nor are you alone in the breath to breath struggle to choose the light.

when i read your words and see your picture, i see a brother. a brother i may worry for, because i see his struggle. not a brother i worry for because i fear what he does to others. someone i do not have to worry is a callous predator, because a callous predator would not be having this struggle.

you are already doing many of the good things to care for yourself- working out, trying to care for yourself and your new family member, being considerate of others, struggling to balance all these different needs.

a 13k run is not all you have. you have a kitten, a profession, and the courage to be honest about your struggle. there are many of our brothers who do not even have these.

you also, clearly, have a strong will to grow, and growing is always a challenge. what are some ways you think you might be able to grow right now? something simple,to just take that next step, like you have taken the ones before, to start running, to develop your engineering skills?

i always find cooking therapeutic, medicine for the soul, and the neighbors always like a shared meal they dont have to cook and clean up after. or baking? baked goods are friend makers.

you got this, brother. i read a strong man in a tough moment. you gonna make it.

gefrorener-atem · 2025-09-25T16:49:05+00:00

Your cat is really cute.

PhulHouze · 2025-09-25T14:08:57+00:00

You need to meditate. You are taking the right steps to consider others thoughts and feelings and recognizing the need to control the darkness.

If you are having a hard time meditating, consider medication.

For appearance, I think focusing on fitness is a great idea. You might consider shaving, cutting your hair short and wearing more traditionally stylish clothes.

Most important though is recognize everything is temporary. Life is a gift you only receive once. If it’s not feeling like a gift, keep trying till you figure it out - you can solve this but it may take years - be patient, accept help.

jjj2576 · 2025-09-25T14:14:09+00:00

Patience takes practice. I’ve been working on it for years, but getting 10k steps a day and meditating helps with that. The 10k steps forces me to get away from my desk, pop in my headphones, and walk around my block. I can’t talk up meditating enough— TripleFlame app is a good place to start.

As for your physical looks, I can give you feedback on diet & muscle growth, as I’m into strength training. It’s hard to tell from these pics, but a caloric deficit, while hitting your protein goal, and doing strength training will always fo folks good.

I’d say grab some tweezers and treat your brows like a Banzai tree, but eye brows suck when you take too much off. If you aren’t feeling brave, get them wax or threaded somewhere right quick. I got them bushy Eugene Levy brows, but folks always tell me how clean I look after getting my brows waxed or threaded.

Sending good vibes, dude.

JudgementalChair · 2025-09-25T14:39:35+00:00

I recently got out of a long term relationship that shattered my sense of self confidence. I've been spending a lot of time working on myself. Working on myself, not just physically (I'm down 20 lbs in the last 3 months) but also my mental health. Words of affirmation, treating myself with the kindness that I treat others with, journaling to sort my emotions and thoughts, taking time to sit and meditate.

It looks like you're in a dark spot right now OP, but tomorrow is always another day, another roll of the dice. Tomorrow might be the day you meet the love of your life. Tomorrow might be the day you stumble upon an opportunity that will change your trajectory forever.

Look into seeing a therapist, there's nothing wrong with it. Look into volunteering groups for people your age. You'll meet peers that you can look-up to and give you fresh perspective. Don't focus so hard on all the negatives in life, take time to appreciate the positives too, they're there as well, but can be easily overlooked when we're down on ourselves.

You're going to be ok, OP. You got this

moistconcrete · 2025-09-25T16:17:13+00:00

You can’t quit. Your buddy needs YOU. YOU MATTER TO THEM Your their world! You are the thing they come to when they cant understand this frustrating world and you can provide them with something you yourself think you do not have.

BedSpreadMD · 2025-09-25T17:41:56+00:00

The way i developed patience was from working in retail. I realised nothing is worth getting angry over, it lends you absolutely nothing.

Write down your feelings, and become self-aware of how you're feeling and the impact it has on your current surroundings. It will help you develop mental discipline, and help you direct your thoughts towards the things you want out of life, rather than the things that bother you.

The more time you spend thinking about what you want for yourself and your future, you'll eventually think about how to accomplish those things. The only thing holding you back is you. Life is a rollercoaster ride. Lean into it and enjoy the ride in your own way.

Learningmore1231 · 2025-09-25T14:12:57+00:00

You need Christ cast your burden to him repent of your sin, confess him as lord and find a local church to learn from. This has a spiritual level problem written all over it.

Title	I don't know what to do.. I am gonna break some day.
Author	Selective-Mute3714
Upvotes	93
Comments	22
Date	September 25, 2025 1:45 PM UTC (9 months ago)
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