I’m 33. Been dating for years. not new to game. Used to study RP/seduction stuff back in the day, internalized the basics: outcome independence, leading, sexual escalation, and not chasing validation. I used to not be good with women, but after studying the basics ~ 7 years ago, I’ve done fairly well with women and at times had options of who to choose to date seriously.

I’m good looking, fit, good job, own real estate, etc.

Dated a girl for 5 years who I broke up with 1.5 years ago after I found out she was cheating on me nonstop on work trips for years. Didn’t seem to bother me. I hit the pavement instantly for new dates.

Dated a few women at once after that and quickly chose another LTR after that who I dated for a year. Oil and water. Knew from the beginning it was a bad match, but I stayed (weak, I know).

Been going on Hinge dates recently, and most don’t go great. Was getting discouraged.

Then I met a girl recently.

We’ve hung out 3 times. The connection and sex were next-level… to the point it’s messing with my head. I’m overanalyzing everything: texts, pacing, whether she’ll lose interest, when to reach out, etc. The anxiety feels like an addiction, and it’s bleeding into other areas of my life.

I’m not getting new dates right now, despite trying to build the roster and take my mind off this one chick. The ones I line up either flake or don’t go well. I’ve lost that “I’m the prize” energy. I’m a disciplined, driven dude — fitness, real estate investing, solid career… but this one woman has me twisted up. And for the first time in years, I actually feel depressed. Like existentially low.

Ever since breaking up with my most recent LTR, I’ve cried a lot randomly like 3x per week. I don’t want her back. I look back at all the wasted years I’ve had dating women that weren’t right. See that I’m getting old and time is ticking.

It’s like all the wasted years and failed LTR’s hit me all at once like a brick wall. I never processed them before. I didn’t think i cared, maybe my subconscious was blocking it.

I want an LTR and kids. that’s the real goal. But I don’t want to chase it from weakness.

How do I reset?

What’s the best way to climb out of this mental hole and get my grounded energy back?