I need help urgently

Charge36 · 2026-01-03T19:35:59+00:00

Hard to diagnose but you're probably coming off too strong, or not establishing a flirty sexy vibe.

Women don't want a guy to take care of them they want a guy to make their pussies tingle

No-Lobster-4646 · 2026-01-03T19:43:33+00:00

From what you said here, I would say to not be so available. Many people would say don’t play games, but sometimes playing games is a must, as you can see. Don’t make them feel like they have secured you as a potential partner. Sometimes when they want to see you, tell them you can’t because you have already made other plans and don’t tell them what those other plans are. When you’re on the phone, tell them you have to take an incoming call and don’t tell them who’s calling. You can stop playing these games as the relationship progresses, but at first, sometimes these games are necessary.

NamelesInternetDude · 2026-01-03T20:39:21+00:00

Hard to tell without meeting you directly but here's a quick checklist of things that could be going on, troubleshooting style:

-You are not asserting romantic intent

-You are pushing it too much without giving them space

-You don't have much going on in your life and they loose interest

-Some personality issue which makes you unpleasant to be around of for some reason (think of your other social relationships for reference)

A woman being interested in you and then loosing interest as they get to know you means you might have to work on your empathy, agency, attitude towards life or mental health problems

Former-Floor9376 · 2026-01-03T20:46:23+00:00

This answer is through the Daygame perspective, but if I have to guess anything, you take too long to escalate. It is technically impossible to get friendzoned if you escalate on time (you will get rejected instead).

In short, escalation reveals exactly where you are in the interaction, if she accepts -> she fancies you (not just in your own head). Therefore it is the most strategic tool. It has some side-effects of displaying confidence and competence indirectly, but these are only secondary to the earlier stated purpose.

Remember, the key is not to escalate blindly and out of line. Calibration is key, but from doing nothing, it is better to shoot your shot.

Here are some resources for reference.

- Conversation topics (the goal is to stay personal, on her communication terms): https://coffeedaygame.wordpress.com/2025/06/27/conversation-patterns-in-daygame/

- Fast date model (how to redline dates): https://coffeedaygame.wordpress.com/2025/10/25/a-date-model-for-fast-escalation/

Square-Quit8301 · 2026-01-03T19:53:58+00:00

How do you present yourself. ? Do you scale the conversation to the sexual field or just listen to her? You have to lead the conversation and leave if she wants to be your friend.

Say no , I don't wanna be your friend. Don't be scared.

Final_Bunny · 2026-01-03T20:08:49+00:00

You're a mystery the ladies at first then from the experience you give them they feel like they solved the mystery and checkout from there.What you must do is remain a mystery. No Chick should be able to figure you out and you shouldn't be too accessible to them.

You remain a mystery by giving limited conversation just revealing enough to the point where some mystery is left. Use some freaky innocent jokes, it's part of flirting. When you compliment her never compliment her physicality; compliment her fragrance, fashion, life goals.

Always make a women bring something to the table" - Her acting cute is not enough. Keep her occupied, busy. Give her something to do. Give her agendas, plans.

Work on your conversation. I'll tell how to get what you want from the ladies.

Dandys3107 · 2026-01-03T22:34:41+00:00

It feels like your sexual tension game is non-existent. Women need proper emotional stimulation to get horny, if you are giving the vibes of a kind friend, obedient citizen, conformist male, then you will obviously turn off her natural sexual triggers. Think straightforward and study our natural sexual selection traits, women desire a strong, brutal, leader man that will fuck her brains out and don't care what she thinks.

DefeatTheUp · 2026-01-03T19:38:19+00:00

Focus on genuine connections, not just external attraction.

Redpillx94 · 2026-01-03T19:44:43+00:00

Are you making a move or are you being her therapist?

Red_Beard6969 · 2026-01-03T19:57:17+00:00

Seems like you lack emotional intelligence or there is character and looks disbalance. Something I am struggling with.. I am 6'2"/3", 100kg, my looks are somewhat serious but I am very quirky, jokey, talk too much and extremely extroverted guy. So I feel that difference is what kills me on dates. They get one image in the head, and see totally different, which in most cases is off putting and they throw you in friendzone.

observer2121 · 2026-01-03T21:01:50+00:00

You are taking too long to get physical. Try to have relations by the second date. They are interested in your body not your mind.

Mental-Sherbert2184 · 2026-01-03T21:26:18+00:00

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star_wars_the_501st · 2026-01-03T22:16:46+00:00

Here’s what you need to do:

-In the beginning throw in negs (backhand compliments). If Don’t do this you will not get sexual tension.

-Kino Escalation: The girl needs to know that you are sexually interested in her after the attraction phase. Don’t be a weirdo start with small steps (hand, shoulder and make sure she doesn’t mind)

If you have the time for it, read the mystery method. My game is basically 1:1 from his book and it works really well to pull the prettiest girls.

Thank me later

OldSchoolNewRules · 2026-01-03T22:40:17+00:00

First you should learn to not type in a single run-on sentence.

Cosephtaughtyou · 2026-01-04T01:11:56+00:00

Okay here are some tips:

Route 1: Hush, and when you do speak when called for just say enough that covers what was asked or being spoke on. People can always tell when you are talking out your ass (i did this myself and stopped.)

Route 2: play the game - they think something about you thats getting you in the friendzone find out and change it or be come so irresistible they take you from friendzone to FWB.

PoweredByCoffee5000 · 2026-01-04T06:06:26+00:00

Unsure how to help you except if one says " I want to be just friends." Simply do and say this. "I appreciate your honesty, but I'm looking for something more serious and I'll leave the conversation at that." Then whatever you do after that night- cut the contact and let them contact you first. Don't let your thirsty mind ruin you and contact them afterwards. Do not do any favors they'll ask of you. If they do, do not reply with excuses.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-01-04T06:29:10+00:00

Too nice. Read Daygame Mastery by Krauser

relaxed_being · 2026-01-04T15:39:33+00:00

you should make it very clear you don't want her as a friend, since the very beginning, I do that by flirting with her, aka compliment her on something that I wouldn't say to a friend, and if she tries to slide it/ignore it and friendzone me anyway, I just ignore her, just make sure your intention is purely seduction, if she's not interested then don't even allow her to friendzone you, move on

Title	I need help urgently
Author	Mental-Sherbert2184
Upvotes	25
Comments	36
Date	January 3, 2026 7:29 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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