When I got my driving license my husband told me to look for cars and give him some example. Don’t judge me I am really into old old cars that still works. If it’s rusty too well even better. I don’t get robbed this way. Better for environment too. It’s kinda been ingrained if something is old and running its a safe bet.

It’s my first car so it doesn’t have to be new or expensive . So I send him some models. He wasn’t happy and questioned my sanity. He took the matter in his hand and said there’s no way he would let his wife drive in that . People will talk. He purchase a smaller model european brand of what he usually drive. And insist that he will put a single digit license plate on it with his initials. Because all his cars has it and I should do it too. Now i feel a bit exposed. Especially when i drove past a police or so. I’ve been controlled once if I was tuned or not. I get nervous . Also I have a feeling I felt more watched. I already encountered some of his friends and acquaintances a few times in the city or on some event, one was from switzerland and they all immediately report to him that they saw me.
I prefer to stay invisible. I value my freedom and anonymity. I kept my marriage a secret a few years in fear of scrutiny since he is 15 years older and away often. I feel so hung up about the fact that he override my decision that time . He don’t do that often. But am I too submissive or should I just let it go because he actually meant well?