Exclusive | Gen Z, millennial men faced with 'approach anxiety' — and don't date

redidiott · 2026-01-09T00:08:33+00:00

Who could blame them.

stanfy86 · 2026-01-09T00:16:37+00:00

My grandmum says that today’s women are rubbish by her standards. Enough said.

eluusive · 2026-01-08T23:56:19+00:00

Of course they do. Women treat an approach with severe revulsion in many cases. A few instances of that and you learn not to do it. There are polite ways of rejecting people, but many women get off on being cruel. I kind of appreciate it, because I know that I didn't miss out on anything when they do that.

MeasurementNice295 · 2026-01-09T00:48:44+00:00

There are only so many times a behavior can be met with negative response until any specimen learns to cease it, forever.🙂

Wayss37 · 2026-01-09T09:36:52+00:00

Still waiting for mainstream media to publish an article about why women don't approach men

SidewaysGiraffe · 2026-01-09T16:01:17+00:00

They don't have "approach anxiety"; they have "basic observational logic". When you get burned touching the stove, you eventually stop touching it.

itsakon · 2026-01-09T01:16:42+00:00

I think that term was coined at least 30 years ago. Every generation was afraid of talking to women romantically; everyone has approach anxiety.

It’s just that before it was for normal reasons, now it’s because they might publicly ruin your life over nothing.

RSA1RSA · 2026-01-10T12:56:30+00:00

Cool, let women do the approach and see if they like having that weight on them.

iAmTheBombSquad7 · 2026-01-10T17:16:53+00:00

Well, men don't have to do anything they don't want. We live in a free society. If that bothers women, why don't they approach?

GarlicFalse3779 · 2026-01-11T14:57:32+00:00

"Anxiety" or "fear of being canceled or falsely accused"?

Firmihirto · 2026-01-09T00:16:02+00:00

Its all because of pornography and its "high standards", and the neo feminist movement that says men approaching women is creepy.

Beginning_Act_9666 · 2026-01-09T13:02:12+00:00

My personal favourite cold approach strategy is fake street survey. Highly recommended!

Unique_Magician6323 · 2026-01-12T21:10:29+00:00

IMHO, if you want to get over 'approach anxiety', try speed dating to brush up on your conversation skills with broads. I know people bash speed dating, but it's a good way to talk to ~dozen broads and there is no pressure to actually ask the girl on a date. You'll learn to read body language, buying signals, rejection signals, etc. Maybe you'll get lucky and end up on date or two.

I'd also utilize a low risk approach. Don't try and engage in a long convo with a chick who may be repulsed by your presence.

Quick in and out: "Hi, you're really cute, would you happen to be single"? That gives her the opportunity to shoot you down with an easy "no, I have a bf". If you get a yes, give her your name and number and tell her you'd like to go get a coffee sometime". If she thinks she's too good for coffee, then great, you just screened her out of your life. If she thinks too good to make the first call, she didn't find you attractive anyway. If she likes you, then she'll reach out. If she doesn't reach out, she would have ghosted or flaked anyway.

Don't expect phenomenal results. You'll be giving your number dozens of times before you get a call and even if you get a call, it may go nowhere. Keep in mind right after she got off the phone with you, she checked her dating app and Chad swiped on her 2 hours ago. Maybe you'll never get a call, but you've kept your risk & investment low. 🤘

AmuseDeath · 2026-01-09T12:00:25+00:00

I agree with the overall message, but I think most men do it the wrong way.

Just approaching a random woman running or getting coffee is a bit weird. A lot of times, people are very invested in their activity and aren't looking to randomly date. You need to find a setting where you can meet women organically like an event or if she's a friend of a friend. Just randomly approaching women in public is not going to do anything but make you get rejected quite a lot.

Just do some group activity and do it for the activity and see if there are women there who are open to friendship and then something will eventually spark. Randomly asking a woman at a Starbucks for her number doesn't sound like a great idea.

Omecore65 · 2026-01-09T02:37:11+00:00

Keep ignoring the real reason and pump this out going to worsen divide

pargofan · 2026-01-09T02:47:24+00:00

Wasn't this a article the subject of a post just yesterday or a few days ago?

Title	Exclusive \| Gen Z, millennial men faced with 'approach anxiety' — and don't date
Author	DougDante
Upvotes	122
Comments	38
Date	January 8, 2026 11:53 PM UTC (6 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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