This is the whoooooole reason I'm here. I have zero clue how to "protect myself" financially, or even if I can. We've been together for damn near 30 years. Her name is on every bank account. She's on my life insurance. She has no job, hasn't worked in 25 years not counting Etsy. Which I pay for. We still have a teenage son... But I can't afford two house-holds.

I had kidney failure 4.5 years ago, she moved into our guest room about 3 months after that happened. She hasn't touched me in any way in almost 5 years.

I've since been through dialysis, transplant, recovery, broke my leg, rehab + recovery, shit. I had 4 surgeries last year. She visited me in tne hospital once per inpatient. Twice during my leg rehab, the grandkids wanted to see me.

She won't talk about it. "You're just... mean. I don't know how to explain it." And walks away. I'm more lonely and miserable than I've been in my entire life and the woman I married 18 years ago is 30 feet away from me.

I'm not emotionally distraught or broken down. I'm over that shit now. I am miserable, and feel horrible for our son's. But I can't take this anymore and I can't keep trying.