Awkward around blue pill women

Such-Tangerine2673 · 2026-01-12T04:29:08+00:00

You are probably overgeneralizing and making assumptions about coworkers and acquaintances that might or might not be correct.

I am a very successful, well paid, hardworking attorney, and I also have always have been very traditional in my approach to dating and now have an amazing relationship with traditional polarity where redpill principles keep us thriving.

I would never, ever ever bring up my relationship dynamics with coworkers, and frankly I would never trust a coworker who brought up their relationship dynamics to me, even if I agreed with them, because it shows a lack of boundaries and poor judgment.

What does “working on your womanhood” mean to you? Because frankly, if someone told me that in real life I would think they needed to touch grass. But if you talk about working on your cooking skills, or a needlepoint you’re excited to finish, etc. you will likely have a much easier time finding common ground in conversation. A lot of women have successful careers and traditionally feminine hobbies, that’s not weird at all.

I’d encourage you to spend more time looking for similarities and common interests, and less time “othering” people based on their career or dating choices. It’s really isolating to go through life only befriending people who agree with you 100% in all areas.

Edit to add: Sometimes people are just venting, they don’t want or need your advice or help. A single friend complains about dating? I say “Yeah, it’s rough out there. I don’t envy you.” I don’t say “well, you’re kind of an entitled bitch who doesn’t appreciate anything so why would a guy even try.” It’s just not worth it. Learn to stfu and only very rarely give actual advice when it is genuinely being directly asked of you, and even then, sparingly.

cubatista92 · 2026-01-12T03:56:28+00:00

Do not discuss dating strategies at work.

Talk about your hobbies and the news. You do not need to excuse your hobbies and interests as a project to find a man. You should do them because they are things that bring joy to your life, not because they are some cheat code to a man. The correct man will see them and find value in them.

leosandlattes · 2026-01-12T13:23:50+00:00

I cannot relate to this feeling. In the real world—the outside world—there are no “blue pill” or “red pill” women. You don’t know how any of their dating lives are. You are making assumptions about them without actually knowing them.

To be very clear, dating someone higher (by income) is not what makes a relationship red pill. There are PLENTY of examples on this subreddit alone where women make the higher income, but the relationship dynamic is male-led and traditionally oriented.

I would say most people separate how they are at work from how they are with their romantic life. I work in tech, I have multiple degrees. I also crochet, I love cooking and baking, fashion, and the responsibility split in my household leans traditional, but I wouldn’t call those “working on womanhood.” That’s just having hobbies.

Working on femininity, as it means in RPW, is more psychological than anything else. Your openness, graciousness, how you interact with other people (which includes blue pilled women), ability to navigate conversation, your demeanor, etc. And those are things you shouldn’t really be talking about with strangers or people you just meet, or coworkers. Why are you even talking about that stuff with them?

edu-ellie · 2026-01-16T19:12:36+00:00

As I become less force and more flow, I reply to resistance and unwanted advice with "I'm happy". For example, if someone is telling me to really go after a raise, I'll say, "This job is a fit for me right now, so I'm happy". If you sense they will really push, add on, "How's your work?" or "How's your sister?" Theres no need to explain yourself. Explaining IS exhausting. Take small opportunities to affirm what you like/value, and you can always redirect the conversation with open-ended questions.

Conscious-Air-9823 · 2026-01-29T19:41:22+00:00

I know I’m late to this, but just echoing what other people say just because a woman is in corporate or nursing or whatever and seems really serious about her career. Doesn’t mean she is check out my last post in here. For example I work in corporate project management and I hate my job so I’d probably come off as serious about careers to you. Also, just know that you being able to transition into a chill more relaxed job is a privilege. Again, refer to my post but finding a job that allows you to afford life if you do need to pay for things like rent and stuff and one that also doesn’t stress you out is a privilege.

AutoModerator · 2026-01-12T03:16:21+00:00

Title: Awkward around blue pill women

Author Opening-Register-409

Full text: My area has a fairly high number of blue pill women I'd say. I feel awkward talking to them sometimes.

Most blue pill women are busy working on their careers on some level. Except I didn't like the career world cause I had bad experiences from it, with being harassed by men, toxic workplaces, bullying etc, and I think the career I want is harder for me than it is for them. Maybe some of them are less sensitive than I am and don't mind some of the stuff that goes on half the time.

I've made some changes to my career path some time back so I'm trying to work for more chill and relaxed companies, and spending my free time working on my womanhood cause I think it'll help me get a guy that I feel I need. It feels awkward talking to blue pill women about working on my womanhood cause they kind of see it as a weakness whereas working on career is a strength to them. But since I've had a miserable time with career it's not a strength for me, more of a weakness, and redpill feels more like a strength? But it's too early to say if redpill is actually paying of for me.

I don't have much to say for my career. Sometimes blue pill women try to encourage me with career more and it feels awkward trying to explain to them my miserable experiences with career.

Some blue pill women are happy to date any guy even if he's lower than her or can't help her much cause they believe in "love conquers all" "as long as you love him, you'll get by". So they'll encourage me to do the same but I don't think those relationships have a happy ending (if the guy isn't decent) and I don't think they want me to criticize their guys so I don't feel like I can say anything. I can't happily date the guy I want cause I need to do work to get there and those women wouldn't see the need for the effort when I can just get a lower guy they don't see any problems with.

I just find conversations hard, like we have different mindsets, and it's hard to explain my perspective to them.

Does anyone else feel the same with blue pill women?

What do you guys do?

I think the only options are to try and explain more, or to avoid them.

Sometimes I feel like some bluepill women, or redpill women that aren't red pill enough, also get jealous of me. Like they want a decent guy but think he should like them naturally, they don't have to put in any effort, so they're not able to get decent guys (although they could if they put in more effort, or increase interactions w them) and then they start shitting on decent men for not liking them naturally. And expecting me to also shit on decent men and their too high standards nowadays etc.

I sometimes have negative opinions of guys, including decent guys, but it's not for those reasons. Or they're jealous of me for having a decent guy even though I put in effort and can't help being passive aggressive towards me, or wanting to take me down a peg or two. They don't necessarily want me to break up with him since they might not feel like they can meet his expectations or standards so they can't get him, but they just want to kick me around a few times when they see me.

I sometimes feel like some women think I'm this super boastful type. Like I'm the type of women constantly boasting about guys, constantly making other women feel bad for not having as great of a relationship as me etc. It doesn't matter if I'm not this type of women (or don't think I am), I'm not perceived as such by other women around me. It's common in my area.

So I just feel like I go through a lot of shit with women I can't help or change. And all I can do is put up with it until I can move away.

Does anyone relate to this feeling?

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EduStorm246 · 2026-01-12T04:24:39+00:00

Avoidance is probably the better strategy because most (all?) bluepull women are self righteous idiologs and will not be open to listen and understand.

Title	Awkward around blue pill women
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Date	January 12, 2026 3:16 AM UTC (6 months ago)
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