Still kinda stuck emotionally

Immediate-Story2562 · 2026-02-20T01:22:32+00:00

Some of the hard part is that you have been living with this person day in and day out.
You shared intimacy and memories. Then its over for whatever reason and it just leaves an empty space where there was once someone. Silence when there was once a voice. Coldness when there was once a warm body next to you in your bed.

This is why I recommend to get a dog. They provide much the same if not better apart from intimacy of course. Your best friend for their short lifes. Dogs betraying or leaving their humans are almost unheard of.

According-Designer15 · 2026-02-20T00:45:55+00:00

That contradiction you're describing is more common than people admit. Miserable in it, still gutted when it ended. Both things true at the same time.

I think it's because you weren't grieving a good marriage. You were grieving the one you wanted it to be. That's actually harder in some ways because you can't even look back with clean sadness, it's all mixed up with the criticism and the feeling of never being enough and still somehow missing her anyway.

A couple months is nothing. Give yourself more room than you think you need.

TheConjugalVisit · 2026-02-19T18:57:26+00:00

It's been 8 months for me (after 13 years), finally falling out of love for her. Doesn't mean I don't think about her or want her.

dystinct · 2026-02-19T17:29:29+00:00

You just need time. It will go away before you know it.

Title	Still kinda stuck emotionally
Author	Ok_Motor5098
Upvotes	10
Comments	7
Date	February 19, 2026 5:07 PM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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