Whataboutism

king_rootin_tootin · 2026-03-15T19:53:45+00:00

I love the assumption that men aren't raped and assaulted ever.

Kuato2012 · 2026-03-15T20:00:07+00:00

"Bad things sometimes happen to women, therefore any negative response you experience to the nonstop barrage of misandry that you experience every day isn't valid."

These have to be bots, right? Surely there aren't this many women out there who are this terrible at using their own gray matter.

mrtibbles32 · 2026-03-15T22:46:26+00:00

The psychological underpinnings of the "ick" is somewhat concerning.

It's always seemed to me that women will interact with a new person who they see as a potential partner and begin to create an idealized version of that person in their head.

So for example, they meet a guy that they like and imagine him as incredibly brave and stoic and kind and generous and whatever other traits they'd want in a partner, along with how someone with these traits would act in any situation.

Obviously, this illusion is broken when they witness the guy doing something that would be incongruent with the idealized version of him that they're imagining. This results in the woman having to discard the illusion and be left with what the man actually is (a regular person, with flaws, like everyone else).

This upsets them because they don't want the real version of this person, they want to have the idealized version of that person. To them, the real person isn't good enough.

So they get the "ick" and leave that guy and look for a new one. They find a new guy and the process repeats. There is effectively no way for this woman to meet a partner they find acceptable because their standards are so lofty and perfect that nobody except an idealized image of a person could ever meet them.

They will continue to throw away potential relationships and partners that could have made them very happy had they chosen to see the other person for what they are and not what they wish for them to be.

Or something idk, I'm not a psychologist.

Late-Hat-9144 · 2026-03-16T05:27:44+00:00

Men have to deal with those issues at least as often as women do... so what's their point?

KawaiiDoodleQueen · 2026-03-18T17:16:24+00:00

the 'ick', as women call it, is simply being either autistic, unattractive, nerdy or socially awkward

it's socially acceptable ableism

Title	Whataboutism
Author	Dependent-Match4726
Upvotes	106
Comments	13
Date	March 15, 2026 5:05 PM UTC (4 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/EverydayMisandry
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