I feel like this is such an easy answer but I don’t know why I’m dragging my feet. My wife and I have filed for divorce in California and the 6 month waiting period is over. We have 4 kids together and were married for over 15 years. I know my marriage is over but I don’t want it to be and would go back to being married if I could. I had an emotional affair during my marriage and was emotionally abusive as well. Been separated for over two years and I know once it finalizes my life will be better but often times I still catch myself reminiscing of what my life could be if we both decided to work things out. I know I’d be okay to reconcile but she doesn’t want to. She thinks that if we were too that her life would be the same as it was in the past. Am I the only one that’s going through this or is this a common occurrence?