I meet this girl twice a week because we’re working on a joint project. Same parent company but different subsidiaries, so no workplace rules stopping anything outside work.

Week 1 went well. I approached normally, some light teasing, but kept it a bit professional because of the environment. After the first couple meetings she seemed engaged, but in week 2 her energy dropped. She seemed less interested and less talkative. I suggested maybe catching a movie sometime and she gave a vague “I’ll let you know.”

Looking back, I think I messed up early by trying to act too professional instead of being my usual outgoing self. She seems to respond more when I’m just relaxed and natural.

I thought the opportunity was missed anyway but that's how inwould act heading forward.

I assumed she wasn’t interested anymore, so week 3 I pulled back and kept things polite but minimal. That’s when she suddenly became more engaged. She directly asked why I stopped talking to her, started spending lunch and coffee breaks with me, and stayed back after meetings to talk in the parking lot.

The next day I kept some distance again and she gave even more attention. Asking me to sit next to her, playfully hitting my arm when I teased her, even stepped on my foot jokingly and grinned.

Last week after saying how she can't wait to get home and could only spare 10 mins for our usual post day chat, we talked for almost an hour in the parking lot after the meeting and I walked her to the metro and there we again talked to half an hour because she didn't leave when we reached.

But outside the days we meet, she never initiates conversation. Her texts are short and very closed off, doesn't reveal much about her life. She’s also very private about her personal life and wouldn’t even say what she did over the weekend.

Part of me feels like if she was really interested, it wouldn’t feel this unclear. But I’ve caught feelings, so I might be overthinking.

She did agree to join me for drinks with another couple after work this week when I invited her.

Is there a real chance attraction can build here, or am I just someone she enjoys talking to in that specific setting?

Can I create attraction if they are willing to spend time with me already?