How do you handle ambiguous answers to a date invite?

Additional-Case4392 · 2026-04-03T20:37:56+00:00

A “maybe” is a no. Withdraw attention and give it to the “yes” girls. Like who likes you.

Zepp_BR · 2026-04-03T20:07:25+00:00

In sales we learn "only a hard no means no". I mean, that saying could lead to a LOT of trouble in the dating world, but not really in asking someone on a date.

Maybe she does need to confirm something will happen, maybe she needs to talk to her girls to evaluate you, maybe she asked her main FWB and she's awaiting for his response.

The truth is: it doesn't matter.

What it matters is: you ask again. A little different this time. "So, did you get the confirmation?"

There's a line between take action and being needy, but you gotta take action to begin crossing it.

Ask again and let her answer. I wouldn't ask again. There's another saying that says: Who wants to make it happen, find room to do it.

tattooedpanhead · 2026-04-03T21:28:29+00:00

Yes I would let the invite die in silence if she doesn't get back to me.

Then go do something fun and take lots of selfies and post them on your Instagram or where she can see what she missed out on.

You don't really want to chase women, you want women to chase you. Go have fun with out her and document it as much as possible. And if you happen to meet some other ladies while you're out having fun? make sure to document that as well.

Edit: on second thought. Don't let them get away with that maybe bull shit! What you're gonna do is, call her out on it. When you get a response like "let me confirm later"? Say no! Tell her If she's really interested than except the offer now, or regret it later. Otherwise don't waist my time and just tell me you're not interested. Then wate for her answer.

As soon as you have her answer walk away. If you have to, make up some reason to leave. False time constant, a vague or false reason to leave.

Make her think your time is important and that she's lucky that you want to spend some of it with her.

TheMrMacaroni · 2026-04-04T10:18:36+00:00

Let’s reorganise when we both know our schedules :).

Girls are indirect and won’t give you a hard no, + they’re programmed that men will get defensive/angry/salty.

Either re schedule, or move on

Excellent-Archer-238 · 2026-04-03T21:59:57+00:00

Ambiguous answers = no

Unless they give a specific reason of why they have to confirm later like: "let me check because I think I was going to take care of my grandma, need to check if my sister can cover me. I'll let you know". Actual situation that has happened to me.

Only when they give an actual reason that sounds credible, it means that they are geniuinely going to check something to confirm.

Jironasaurus · 2026-04-03T22:47:38+00:00

"I prefer to have a set date. I'm sure both of us are busy people, so it's better for both our schedules that way. Let's plan a different date instead. I'll let you know again."

And then re-ping her again another time.

andreidanilo · 2026-04-04T02:04:21+00:00

If it’s a vague answer it’s usually a no. If she genuinely can’t go, she will always try to reschedule on the spot.

If you’re ever in doubt, ask yourself if you’d act the same if the roles were flipped. Or ask yourself if she’d still act this funny if… whatever celebrity tried to ask her out

The fact that she says “I’ll let you know” and then just goes silent while posting stuff just proves she’s not that busy. Maybe for you, unfortunately… you’ve played your part, now it’s up to her if she really wants to go out…

Karvo_ · 2026-04-05T07:54:08+00:00

Ambiguous answers = no

Think about it like this - if you wanted to go on a date with a girl and she asked you for one, would you say a response like that or would you lock in a day?

zebekias · 2026-04-05T12:13:28+00:00

I’d give two days as options and let them choose. If they countered with a third option, cool. Anything else, I’d ignore and delete the number. Not a big deal.

It’s either on, or it’s not, or you are dealing with a PITA girl. When you have lots of options this sort of thing resolves on its own. Otherwise fake it (having options), consider what is acceptable to you, and stick to it.

Title	How do you handle ambiguous answers to a date invite?
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Date	April 3, 2026 8:00 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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