How should I go about trying to hook up in a car or hotel on a date without coming off as weird ?

ApocalypticBroccoli · 2026-04-23T07:23:38+00:00

Bang her in the alley.

Back2theCouture · 2026-04-23T11:12:12+00:00

You gotta tell her in advance that you still live with your parents in the beginning of conversation. Of course don’t just bring it up out of nowhere. Just ask her first in your small talk about her living situation. If she reciprocates she will ask you the same thing.

That way she lowers her guard and already has a rough pic of how you’re situated. That’s totally ok or not weird considering your age. So next time the hooking up comes up she won’t have any questions (has he done this before taking girls to a hotel? Does he think I’m a slut? Etc).

CoachSlyDating · 2026-04-23T18:47:17+00:00

When I was your age I just snuck girls into my family’s house at a late hour. Probably not the greatest idea in retrospect but it worked well for me.

Whatever you do you need to own it. If you are uncomfortable with the hotel, she will be uncomfortable too. If you are uncomfortable with the car, she will be uncomfortable too.

Personally, I wouldn’t bring this up until you are bouncing to the location where you will fuck. If you bring it up out of context or in a weak way at an inappropriate time, you are gonna come off as insecure. If you are booking a hotel, get it somewhere close to where there is cool stuff to do. Then you can just walk there. One less obstacle.

“Let’s bounce, I booked a hotel room so we can get shitfaced., I’ve got white claws in my fridge“

“Let’s go take a joyride in my car.”

Don’t bring up sex or even imply it unless you already know it’s on…

With the hotel, there’s a pretty good chance she says “Sure, but I’m not having sex with you.” Just because of the context. She’s testing to see if you are needy. It means she’s already thinking about having sex with you if you don’t fuck it up.

Good luck.

Good-Tax-1321 · 2026-04-23T20:00:26+00:00

Start making out in your car. When it starts really getting hot and heavy and you sense it escalating (grabbing boobs, kissing neck, hands going downtown) and you can tell she is enjoying it. Stop, and ask her if she would like to go somewhere more private. If she says yes, drive somewhere you could smash undesturbed and start making out again, escalate again, tell her lets go in the back or whatever, and make it happen.

Don't act weird about it at any point, if she says yes and you start going to the spot just make normal convo and continue making her feel safe and comfortable.

The key here is 1. turning her on 2. being able to tell that she doesnt want it to stop. after that, offering to go somewhere private to continue just makes sense.

Tip: have the spot already thought out and close by

Title	How should I go about trying to hook up in a car or hotel on a date without coming off as weird ?
Author	Big_Pea3882
Upvotes	4
Comments	14
Date	April 23, 2026 3:01 AM UTC (2 months ago)
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