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‘My first husband was killed in the war. I’ve been left without a husband!’ the woman shouts at the draft officers, trying to protect her second husband from mobilization.

True-Lychee

May 2, 2026

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Title	‘My first husband was killed in the war. I’ve been left without a husband!’ the woman shouts at the draft officers, trying to protect her second husband from mobilization.
Author	True-Lychee
Upvotes	287
Comments	29
Date	May 2, 2026 4:53 PM UTC (2 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/1t1v62v/my_first_husband_was_killed_in_the_war_ive_been/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MensRights/my-first-husband-was-killed-in-the-war-ive-been.1579433 https://theredarchive.com/post/1579433

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[–]Angio343 174 points175 points176 points 2 months ago (22 children) | Copy Link

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[–]picardathon 5 points6 points7 points 2 months ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm sure if these were her sons she's be just as pissed.

I doubt it, my own Mother couldn't wait to get me out of the house after my education ended "so her life could begin". Children are a burden and a sacrifice, but no-one coerced her to have them: she just wanted to have it all.

But the key point is that women need to be serving or we need to re-investigate a woman's role in society.

I disagree, women in the military are not only a distraction, they pit men against each other in competition when they need to be coordinated as a team focused on the objective.

Womens and mens role in society is the same as it has always been: perpetuation of the species through the different roles of sexual reproduction. Beyond that, raising children doesn't take up a full lifetime, there is plenty of time for men and women to do other things after raising a child (except when society requires men and women invest more and more effort into just remaining in the same place, at which point children and work can't coincide).

I think we are asking the wrong questions: it isn't about men going off and dying in war, but in moderating tribal conflict (and outdated notions of "go forth and multiply" when it is all about sustainable action and cooperation in a limited planet) that leads to war. Expansionist ideas are ridiculous, because you end up in the same position again anyway, but at a larger and even harder scale to manage, after causing much suffering.

A society exists for mutual benefit through cooperation and leveraging the efficiencies of scale to support those who are less able to contribute, however it also needs to be sustainable as part of that benefit.

I have stopped watching "For All Mankind", because I realise it simply fosters the view we can expand our selfish tribal conflict ways forever, infesting the universe with misery for all time, because we never question the point of unlimited growth for growths sake.

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They don't care.

I think it is much more than they don't care: nothing must come between a woman and her self-beneficial agenda. I say this from a perspective of believing that this is women's nature that is pre-programmed into her in a way that she never suspects it is not her own reasoned agenda, never even questions it, because it is fundamentally in service of perpetuation of the species and only she can do that, so anything that doesn't help her fulfill that programming is expendable and only useful in furthering her agenda.

That's why it seems so self-serving, because it is: without her in good condition, there would be no procreation, so she wants what's best for her as well as the child. I don't think a woman's love is for men, it's for what men can provide. However, I'm sure this is all subconscious with women justifying it in other ways.

I can't hate the nature of women, because that is the way they were designed to fulfill a defined biological role, but they are dangerous and inimical to men when men are not in service to them, if they are allowed to do whatever they want, which unfortunately recently has massively increased in the western world. That is not to say sexual consent by women is not an issue, just that we haven't looked at solutions that honour both men's sex drive and womens consent to create win-win outcomes, but have been persuaded to accept women's unilateral solutions that ignore the needs of men in favour of their own.

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