Where can I practice cold approaches?

Level_Coconut_1932 · 2026-05-21T06:54:27+00:00

Beaches, Malls, Coffee Shops, Gyms, Tourist Hotspots, Supermarkets (Literally Anywhere) Just be socially calibrated

norwegiandoggo · 2026-05-21T07:05:07+00:00

Great question. The most important thing is to get to know your city.

Make it your mission to know where people go to socialize outside. And what types of venues and events have what type of people in it.

Pay attention on "facebook events" and other platforms about social stuff going on.

Generally, In order from best to worst:

Social events where single people specifically go to be social. Downside? Usually costs money.
Bars and nightclubs. Generally socially acceptable to meet single strangers in such venues.
Daytime or evening social arenas like parks, shopping streets, public squares, library, beaches, and shopping malls.
Tourist hot-spots
Cafés and small shops (like bookstores).
Public transport waiting areas (just make sure it's not a super busy / stressful / scary area. Chill vibes required)

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-05-21T07:53:29+00:00

Get over the idea that it's weird. It's not. It's natural. How else would you meet people without the apps? Without the social circle? By meeting people! The goal isn't to get something out of a girl, it's to offer value, which is being a part of your fun world. You're not taking anything from her, not trying to get her to do something she doesn't want to, so it's never weird when you do a calibrated approach.

The goal is to have a fun conversation with teasing and banter that slowly shifts into building rapport and establishing commonality. Then you can invite them to somewhere you're already going to and only then exchange contact information. Tell them to keep you company because you're going to the mall for some shopping or something like that (just don't buy her anything, it signals low value and provider attitude unless it's something extremely cheap and fun/cute).

If you don't have anywhere you're going to, fix that, live your life to the fullest. This way the number will be less flakey because you'll paint a picture of the activity in her head and make it more likely for her to agree to go out. It's not a date, just a time bridge. Call her a few times and talk to her on the phone to keep her interest up and make yourself more than just a dude she met once and forgot about. Escalate touch when others don't see it. Invite her to dance at your house. That's where you can build more comfort and escalate to a makeout session, grinding and eventually sex.

ThirdEye_FGC · 2026-05-21T14:33:04+00:00

do you work near the city? if so, try going for a walk on your lunch break around the area and approach someone who catches your eye. it’s important to not approach just anyone. genuinely, look for someone who makes you look a bit longer than normal

abcsofattraction · 2026-05-22T13:27:58+00:00

Bars are the right venue for what you're describing. High volume of women, social environment where strangers approaching each other is normalized, alcohol lowering everyone's social filters, and the option to do many short approaches in a single night rather than one high-stakes attempt.

The "what's the move" question is what trips up most guys at this stage. Walking up to someone who's minding their business with no script feels weird because there's no shared social context yet. The Cheers opener solves this by giving you a low-stakes social pretext that's universally accepted in bar culture.

Walk up with your drink. Make eye contact with whoever you're approaching (solo or group). Glass goes to mid-chest. The opener is "Cheers" or "you guys look like you're having fun, what's the occasion." She or they cheer back on social autopilot because that's what people do in bars. Brief friendly exchange, then either stay and let the conversation develop or eject early with "alright, enjoy your night."

The mechanic works because you're not asking anything from her in that first interaction. You're just doing what people do in bars. The social weirdness you're feeling about approaching someone "minding their business" disappears because Cheers reframes the action entirely. It's a social gesture that happens to lead into conversation if there's mutual interest, not an approach in the way you're imagining it.

Diagnostic use: if fewer than 50% of women cheer back, the issue is your body language or energy, not your words. Cheers strips out the content variable so you can isolate where you're actually failing.

The 10-set rule: aim for 10 Cheers approaches per night with zero attachment to outcome. After 10 sets, the social weirdness recedes and the reps start producing real conversations naturally.

[Full Cheers method here]

Practice this for a few weekends and the "what's the move" question stops being a question.

OpinionThink481 · 2026-05-21T16:01:01+00:00

The reason you do cold approach is not because it's normalize, you do them because you want to be the type of man who does what he wants, including approaching a woman that he likes, even if the rest of society doesn't fet it.

So it's irrelevant if it's weird or not, because it's not your duty to be normal, or avoid being weird. What's relevant is doing what you want simply because you give yourself the authority to do whatever you want to.

It's about empowerment and authenticity, it's about being the type of man who follows his own rules, not other people's rules. A guy who wants to have the integrity to honors his desires and does not let society, men or women, tell him what he has to do.

A guy who does not conform to arbitrary social norms that are not your obligations to follow. A guy who has the full conviction that what he does is right, not because others approve it but because he approves it unilaterally simply because he says so.

Even if the girl herself questions why you do it, you don't go defensive, you don't apologize for doing what you want, you don't justify yourself, you don't stop doing it, you simply double down because that's what a man who knows what he wants and respects himself does. A man who leads his own life on his own terms, not a dude who always does what others expect from him or who lets society dictate to him what he has to do.

So it's not even about whether the girl likes you, it's about what type of man you want to be. The one who has the independence to go against the norm and do what he wants, or the guy who hates himself because he is always doing what everybody else wants at the expense of what he wants.

Warm-Fun5226 · 2026-05-24T03:02:37+00:00

Hey bro I’ve been in ur position. It can lobe pretty hard at first especially with anxiety and overthinking but typically I’m more public places people wouldn’t mind striking up conversation and if she’s interested then you never know where things could go. My best advice is trying the shawty app which helps out with cold approaches and helps you succeed with insights. You got this

South-Excitement1720 · 2026-05-28T15:12:14+00:00

If it was normal, everyone would be doing it and it would be less effective.

Title	Where can I practice cold approaches?
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