I'm doing something wrong and I can't figure out what

Klutzy-Painting885 · 2026-06-08T22:58:13+00:00

1 date per year is way way too low. For context, I go on at least 1 per month. Also you need to be meeting people in person.

Back2theCouture · 2026-06-09T11:48:47+00:00

Learning is hard. But you know what’s harder? Unlearning.

This is why I have more respect with guys with limited knowledge but actively doing, than the ones who absorbed lots of knowledges but not doing it enough. It sounds like you’re the latter, no offense.

PUA-style knowledge at times gives you a false confidence like you know what to do. Imagine in a sports game, where the fans or audience complain about the players “he could’ve blocked the ball!” Or “he should’ve waited!” Well yeah easy for them to comment things like that after the fact. It’d be vastly different if they are the ones who’s actually doing it. It’s similar like in this sub or anywhere else.

TobiGalem · 2026-06-08T23:45:30+00:00

ive been here
meet them in person and act somewhat arrogant but still playful
it works with most girls
some are looking for long term relationships and there is absolutely nothing you can do to fuck them
although some might break their rules for you which is a massive ego boost
but most of them wont

Elegant-Wolf-12 · 2026-06-09T00:16:12+00:00

Get out of your own way. Exercise 3x per week, to burn the crap if the surface of your mind, and meditate 40 minutes each day to clarify and stabilize your mind and energies. So trying so hard. Relax. Enjoy your life. Then talk to women as part of your enjoyment of life. Like an Italian guy having a gelato

becomesharp · 2026-06-09T00:20:45+00:00

It sounds like you were never really successful with dating, even 5-6 years ago? If that's the case, then the issue isnt "something is going wrong now," its that there has always been a skill / confidence deficiency from the beginning.

Your friends who are more successful are either better looking, taller, higher social status, or more skilled. Thats why theyre getting results where you aren't.

WebNew9978 · 2026-06-09T01:24:42+00:00

>It feels like all the advices, pua infields, books I've read/watched numbed my brain and can't date as a normal person anymore. I always tried to be smooth instead of just being myself and out of my head.

That’s probably the reason as to why you’re struggling. You’ve probably become robotic in a sense and women notice it.

>But the thing that frustrates me the most is, I know a lot of guys from various friend groups who are total douches, socially uncalibrated and all the things mentioned not to do when it comes to women - they still get laid and have girlfriends.

Yeah that’s the way it goes. It’s the same for me as well. Everybody around me are married, has girlfriends, getting hookups and yet I can’t even get one woman interested in me enough to go on a first date

HomelessMilkman · 2026-06-09T09:28:22+00:00

Core social skills is charisma and enthusiasm, that's it.

The point of 'learning' is that I tell a guy to be charismatic and engage the person in front of you, but you give a limp effort because of physical stifling and internal distraction.

So, how do you project your voice? How do you improvise things to say in the moment? Where does the energy come from to have enthusiasm behind what you're saying? How do you retain composure amongst all this shit going on? Hence, the 'gap' in knowledge and understanding which an understanding of 'game' should fill.

The issue is misguided, non-functional, superficial nonsense that doesn't address that - and so you can get smoked by guys with limited skill they happened on by accident. They have more intuitive physiological understanding of what 'confidence' is, than what you have through reading the internet.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-06-09T19:18:59+00:00

If you still call masculine men with no filters douches, you don't understand the basics. If you don't understand the basics, how can you expect results? You're lying to women and thus they see your lying and don't want anything to do with you. Tell a woman you want her (respectfully). At least that will be more interesting than whatever you're doing.

Take action, get results.

Title	I'm doing something wrong and I can't figure out what
Author	bolekilolek23
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	June 8, 2026 10:56 PM UTC (1 month ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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