Hi, I have been looking at men/boys getting abused and people's reaction to it.I think that main problem arises from raising boys. From early age, they are shown that being a hero is protecting girls from X, "never hit a woman" , or sth like this. I think these ideas and scars live with then throughout their lives.I will give two examples:

1) I saw a man catching another man stealing and other people reaching to hit the fallen guy(of course I commented that hitting a person already captured is shameful and etc). However, I think if a stealer was a woman, people would be much more hesitant to take an action and some people would have stopped them. This thought of mine doesnt encourage violence against women or anyone,I repeat, it is just non-reactionary response from people towards abused men , which derived from childhood ideologies.

2)Man getting abused by woman in a cafe(presumable his girlfriend).After she hits him several times, he hits her back. People in the comments talking like"equality or equal rights, equal lefts" and etc. You can say yes they talk about equality , what is the problem?

The problem is actually even here where woman started hitting few times first, many people's reaction was some kind of defending man who did self-defense as if there are in court with the statement( equal rights , equal lefts).Even here which is basic self-defense their point is not whether men are getting abused, but it is can an abused man hit a woman back, because from childhood it is ingrained in their brains that "never hit a woman "phrase. Thereforr, they seek justification or some kind of dilemma is happening in their frontal lobe

My question is do you think we can raise boys not to be like these , or do you do something to free people from this injustice