Learning about psychology gives you massive leverage in life. It lets you accomplish more with less effort.

This is especially true in dating.

Think about it. How much time do you spend swiping with no results, going on dates that lead nowhere, or stuck in unsatisfying relationships?

That could all be avoided if only you understood people better.

One of the most useful fields is evolutionary psychology.

This field explores how desires, emotions, and behaviors are not random. Nor are they merely imprinted upon us during our formative years. Rather, they're the result of millions of years of evolutionary pressure.

The challenges of survival in harsh environments and competition for mates led to very specific preferences and patterns. And these are often different for men and women.

Once you know the patterns, you can use them for your own benefit. Since everyone else is clueless, this gives you a massive advantage.

But enough background theory and abstraction. Let's get to the application.

Here are 3 ways you can leverage evolutionary psychology to 10x your dating life.

1 - GET SHREDDED

Fitness signals status.

A lean, muscular build implies a lot about you.

  • You're disciplined.
  • You can afford quality food.
  • You manage your time well and schedule in regular exercise.
  • You sleep well.
  • Your body isn't flooded with cortisol and estrogen from chronic stress.

Moreover, fit guys get more respect from other men. This is huge.

Regardless of wealth or status, it's hard to respect a soft fatty. (Sorry: it just is) And women gravitate towards the 'leader of men' quality that fit men embody. 

Finally, strength signifies security and capability. A strong man can protect her from other men. A weak man can’t. He's of little use in a disaster. In fact, he may be a liability.

You have zero legitimate reasons for neglecting your health and fitness.

2 - HANG WITH WINNERS

If you spend your time with low status men, I have bad news for you. 

You're not the exception in your friend group. Other people, women especially, perceive you as just another low status guy.

This is important. Women want to ensure their children are successful. The easiest way for her to do this: mate with a successful man.

You need to hang out with winners -- and not just for women. Through osmosis, you learn how they operate.

But winners are picky. They don't just hang out with anyone.

So how can you join their circle?

There are two ways.

  • First, develop have skills, capabilities, and resources that they value.
  • Second, be uplifting and personable.

Winners don't talk about problems constantly. They're focused primarily on solutions and execution. Not 'what', but 'how'.

Train yourself to be positive and proactive. Become someone who winners want to include around them.

3 - BE THE BOSS

It's great to be the situational alpha in the social arena. 

But there is one thing even more important: being the boss in the relationship.

Women instinctively want to look up to their man. The alternative is looking down on him. And women rarely tolerate that for long.

Being the boss is actually quite simple. Here’s what you can do:

Give her little chores. Let her be your little helper. Most importantly, reward her when she complies (either through words of affirmation, physical affection, emotional attention, or gifts). 

When you combine this task-reward dynamic, she feels valued and invested. As a result, her devotion grows stronger.

A final word. 

You don't have to take my advice.

The choice is yours. 10x easier or 10x harder.

Leverage evolutionary psychology to thrive in the dating market – or ignore it while incurring additional costs.

(Watch a video about this topic)