getting a girl vs being attractive

intensely_human · 2022-04-29T22:04:13+00:00

Don’t focus on finding the right person. Focus on being the right person.

passengerpigeon20 · 2022-04-30T02:07:52+00:00

ALWAYS expose yourself to many new women and be on the hunt for new targets, because no matter how cute your oneitis looked, how compatible her personality was with yours, how much she charmed you with her femininity and how irreplaceable you think she must be at this current moment, search enough and you WILL find a girl that is equivalent to or better than her and will make you forget all about your past obsession.

geardluffy · 2022-04-29T21:54:03+00:00

I think the question is just not articulated properly. The question in general IS “how to be attractive.” If you can’t attract women then there are things you need to do/not do.

MocDcStufffins · 2022-04-30T04:04:05+00:00

One thing I would add though is don't attempt to cast a wide net. Pick the niche you are going for and stick to it. Lots of guys try to dress and act in a way to not alienate anyone and end up being mediocre, which is not attractive. Be the best version of yourself but be true to who you are and what you are into.

DonnyBomeneddy · 2022-04-30T02:38:59+00:00

Be more attractive, and less unattractive.

flooring_inspector · 2022-04-29T23:47:51+00:00

I’d say to people in this sub, read some of the PUA books and realize that those guys don’t have anything you don’t. Height, looks, nothing. They worked on themselves and developed skills that are useful for communicating with women.

Contango6969 · 2022-04-29T23:23:03+00:00

Yup. Fishing with one hook is for suckers. You want to go fishing with a big ass net. Then you pick the fish you want out of your net, not the entire ocean.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-04-30T05:04:47+00:00

A better idea is just be yourself and stop trying to impress some woman in the first place. IDGAF attitude works. Try it!

n0wmhat · 2022-04-29T23:52:06+00:00

"just be attractive"

ApatheticHeretic_101 · 2022-04-30T13:43:23+00:00

My solution was/is ignore everyone's advice and do my own thing. Women always came to me. Don't know why, but they just did. Then, the right one for me came along and 20 years later, still having fun.

Live your life your way. Be happy with yourself first. And God's sake...AVOID miserable, unhappy people. They only want to drag you down. Just step over them and keep going.

Cheers.

DragonDinner22 · 2022-04-30T02:16:01+00:00

50% of the people who lurk around in this sub will tell you to use and invest your time into learning a whole bunch of shady push/pull tactics, which to a degree end up becoming borderline involuntary negging, to win over that 'one girl'.

I'm not saying that they don't work, because they can, but honestly you would be much better off investing that same amount of energy and time into yourself as it will benefit you beyond getting laid. Do things that make you happy, and feel like a valuable healthier human being. By becoming a genuinely more attractive person, you only need to do half the amount of work it takes to get laid/get a gf. Life is easier and better when YOU as a person are more attractive, not your tactics.

ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-04-29T22:01:07+00:00

Ppl in this sub need to know that if a girl doesn’t show immediate enthusiastic interest from the start, then it’s a no.

WanyCaleb · 2022-04-30T05:21:40+00:00

I'm sad that no one has mentioned da gym.

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2022-04-30T11:05:28+00:00

Also, keep in mind that you may NOT be EVERY CHICK'S TYPE...even when you do become attractive (physically AND behaviorally).

I'm a solid 7/10 guy(average height,stocky, muscular,stubbled out, well groomed), I'm still not EVERY CHICK'S PARTICULAR TYPE and so some are instantly throwing choosing signals,giggling, grinning, touchy feely, wide excited eyes, lots of hair touching(or acting submissive, appreciative, intimidated) while others just ignore me, act like I'm a fly in the corner, or a soggy baby diaper she wouldn't touch to save her life...meh.

1) Don't rely solely on your looks or body to "get" girls. CHARISMA will take you a LONGGGGG way with women(hell, ppl in general).

2) fix your posture, move with masculine swagger/body language.

3) you will OFTEN(it's sweet when you don't have to though ngl) need to initiate. So learn how to open, have good strong eye contact, a shit eating grin, and be a good flirt(not to be confused with thirsty).

4) get the contact info, insta date if possible. If not, then put the contact info in, text/call her immediately WHILE STANDING INFRONT OF HER, TELL HER to save your number in her phone.This way, you let her PUT A FACE/PERSON TO THE NUMBER WHEN SHE LOOKS AT IT and you established a leader type dominant relationship from the jump. She knows she's dealing with a MAN...an ATTRACTIVE MAN.

5) to reiterate, you WILL NOT BE EVERY CHICK'S TYPE...even if you do become attractive.

Good luck, homie.

Sunflowersfordinner1 · 2022-04-29T23:48:20+00:00

Coming from a female, this is solid advice.

Baadepapa22 · 2022-04-30T00:35:38+00:00

Don't mess with us!!! Foooking foooolll

hagakurejunkie · 2022-04-30T22:01:47+00:00

THIS!

Thank you for posting this.

iiexistenzeii · 2022-04-29T22:38:35+00:00

alright now expand on that

Define attractive man please, also point out some resources for us so we can do the work and finally become an attractive person.

Ok-Restaurant-9356 · 2022-04-30T09:41:11+00:00

Masculine traits is the key for being attractive to women. PUA tactics come later.
If she feels your masuline energy, a simple 'hi' will be effective and enough for creating a circle of emotions in her.
Meanwhile bunch of PUA stuff cant be effective on a women. Because you are lacking of masculinity.
Being direct, being courageous, honorable, fearless, leading. There is more but these things are usually enough for creating attraction. It will give an effect to her like when you see her with a big boobs, big ass and beautiful face.

gunners98 · 2022-04-29T23:48:33+00:00

either that or just give up and become completely self destructive and hedonistic. life is overrated anyways and even if you were by some miracle to get your dream girl they’re always bound to disappoint and betray you anyways.

Thin_Protection5616 · 2022-04-29T22:30:40+00:00

There's really not much anyone can do if another person isn't interested unless you're into spending a whole lot of energy making them think you're someone you're not.

Best thing you can do is look your best, communicate effectively and follow the golden rule.

nehebdjdbdj556666666 · 2022-04-30T15:41:41+00:00

Do you have the balls to accept that you will never be attractive enough for a woman to consider…… I doubt you do because you’re delusional. https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1108862276343606&id=100016595314854&m_entstream_source=timeline all the proof you need as to why you’re not hearing back from women. And this is reality…… stop selling fairytales to desperate men.

youcheekydelinquent · 2022-04-30T01:01:03+00:00

internal mindset and externally women do not want to choose how to pick a partner, its difficult and time consuming and ultimately they need society to back them up if it goes sour. So that validation is also a kind of insurance against behaviors outside of the norm. And yes making yourself attractive to all women will help you generally but not every single woman follows this paradaigm.

sebastiankuraz · 2022-04-30T01:09:18+00:00

Ok so if I'm into someone, you're basically saying to fuck trying to date them and instead try to appeal to the mass/everyone else and then date whoever wants me, even if that's not what I want?

2022-04-30T08:59:07+00:00

You’re right. When you look good you get more girls. If you look hot you get all of them

epimpstyle · 2022-04-30T19:33:07+00:00

It is no need to impress anyone, it is not a science talking to people and the girls are people too but if you want a girlfriend just be sure that she is not out of your league (you can try to aim for gorgeous girls for fun or maybe you hope that you will earn the Jackpot, but you must be a realist. For example, if you are working in a gas station it will look weird a picture of you near a gorgeous business lady who is your girlfriend - it looks like she is a singer and you are a fan of her :-)

If you know that you look good, you have more chances to have a gorgeous girl, otherwise, they are not interested in having an average-looking partner as their boyfriend, it is simple as that.

Swimming_Map_952 · 2022-04-30T22:21:38+00:00

But how could I becoming more attractive? I know about working, taking care of my body and wearing nice clothes, but what about kissing? What about talking to women and get them on my bed?

Title	getting a girl vs being attractive
Author	Thin_Protection5616
Upvotes	473
Comments	140
Date	April 29, 2022 9:38 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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