Hello, I've been working on improving myself over the last year. I went on my first date the spring 2015, and met another 5 women this fall.

Just before I went home for christmas I went out with girl number 4. First I took her for a walk in the woods not far from my appartment, and then I got her inside to watch a movie. Afterwards we started making out, I fingered her, and then she was like "do you want to get on your back". So I did, and she gave me a blowjob. From the making out to the BJ she said 3 times "we're not gonna have sex" and I responded with "I just want to cuddle" and "no no".

She stayed here for about half an hour before she said "I'm feeling a bit cold", and I said "yeah... I gotta start finding out what I'm gonna have to dinner" - "okay I understand". I gave her a kiss and she went. Not long after this I went home to my parents for christmas and she texted me every day. Initiating contact 80% of the time (I was the first to contact after she left though). And I would almost always wait til the evening with responding.

The last thing I heard from her was 26th december. She said something, I didnt respond cause I was busy, she later texted me again saying she was drunk. I said "oh, drinking away (insert word for the feeling you feel when you miss someone, what's that in english), so typical you". she answered with "hahaha! lolert" I didn't answer this, and she didn't contact me again either. I sent her a new message sunday, but she haven't responded.

This was my first time making out on a sober date, and first time getting a BJ ever. So I thought "finally, a girl that wants to meet me again". But now she don't respond. I don't know what to do. I have NEVER been on a second date with a woman, but I really thought this would lead to that considering how much she seemed to like being with me.

I have no idea if she thinks I'm too above her, or if she decided she don't like me after all. I do what pua call "neg" pretty hard, but that's just my personality/humor, no trick to lower her value or anything. If this is the problem I suppose I should tell her something nice or something. On the other hand, I saw a local forum post posted on the exact day we stopped talking where everything the user said matched our date(not sexually detailed though)saying she had met someone and had a really nice date but the guy wasn't her type, and she wondered how to say that, because they'd been talking a little every day and she hadn't told him yet she just wanted to be friends. if it's that I should rather wait, or send her some cocky message. On What should I do? I'm considering sending a "concerned" text like "(I haven't heard from you in a while)Are you okay? I hope everything is okay with you and your family" but it might be alittle too exaggerated

TL;DR: Been on 6 dates. They never want to meet me again. Even after everything seems to go right with a date that I know want more than sex, gives me BJ and seemed very content.

Another question: I got this girl on tinder to promise me a date where she gives me a kiss, 2h massage, and makes me pizza, before we went home christmas(after talking with her for a week or two, I was busy. No time to meet). I haven't talked to her since. HOw do I contact her again? And what about the date? I realized with her making food for me and all it's suddenly kinda serious, and I can't just do the "take a walk and then home to me for movies" thing where I'm more comfortable and know what to do