May I ask, why do I have to change and women don't?

cynicalprick01 · 2016-01-25T06:09:33+00:00

because women bear the offspring for our species and each one takes 9 months. They invest more time and effort into the offspring than men do. As such, they get to be more choosy when deciding what man to invest that 9 months in. The man just has to choose who to invest the next 5 minutes in.

Men compete for access, women are the gatekeepers. if you want the opposite, go be a horse-fish

that being said, if you are sufficiently high SMV, then women will be competing with eachother to give you chances to make a move.

feminazis_stalk_me · 2016-01-25T23:31:46+00:00

In nature, males compete and females choose among them. We are still animals and subject to those rules. Women have a passive mating strategy - they just have to pretty themselves up and not act like total cunts. Men, on the other hand, have to give her a reason to choose him over the other ten guys trying to get into her ham wallet.

So yea, you're being weighed, measured and judged worthy or unworthy. It sucks, but it's the nature of the beast. Now that you're learning the rules, you can more effectively play the game.

IVIaskerade · 2016-01-25T07:21:18+00:00

as a blue pill guy I was supplicating and being "nice" to attract women for sex, as a red pill man I'm compelled to change my behavior to a jerk for the same result.

No, not for the same result.

Rasalom72 · 2016-01-25T15:00:23+00:00

Look at it this way. You don't have to change from who you were meant to be. You have to change from the mistake that you've become.

It's like fixing something that's broken, so that it works like it should.... sure, it worked before, but you know it's broken, you've just been to lazy to fix it.

BrunoOh · 2016-01-25T10:48:17+00:00

Because it's different for sex vs commitment. For women, commitment with an attractive man is much harder.

OMGTRIGGERED · 2016-01-25T15:36:47+00:00

But as it relates to sex, this means changing my behaviors. It seems a strange paradox, but whereas a blue pill guy I was supplicating and being "nice" to attract women for sex, as a red pill man I'm compelled to change my behavior to a jerk for the same result. So either way, it seems I'm the one jumping through hoops for sex while women don't have to.

Shut the fuck up. Its your first time mountain climbing and you chose mount everest. Now you can either jump off and fall or keep fucking climbing. As for jumping through hoops, you think it will be as hard next time when you climb a smaller mountain and have experience? Stop complaining and do it.

And this is not to mock the veteran redpiller who is now living the life but even though he finally got the girl, he had to change who he was to get her, while she remained the same. Sort of like her going "Oh, you're being nice to me? Friendzoned." "Oh wait, now you're being a bad boy and flipping all my attraction switches while I don't have to do anything? Okay, now we can have sex." So it would appear he had to play by her rules.

It would appear so but the reality is that she is putty in your hands. She doesnt have to put in work because she doesnt need to. She just has to look hot and get fucked. Guess what though, as a guy you get to be rational and independent as opposed to a literal cow in the herd. Almost no woman acts independently, almost every man wants to act independently. If you'd give up great potential strength for vapidity, stupidity and possible security, you dont deserve either.

Also fuck yes you have to change. If you're an extremely shy pussy do you think you'll be a fine theater actor or do you have to change yourself to be less shy? Not all change is bad, and you dont have to be an asshole, you simply have to care mostly about yourself which is base human nature.

So in a bitter twist of irony, while the red pill in principle helps me to become more attractive by "going my own way", it appears I still have to do what women want to get there.

Lol no. If you're doing what women want you to do then you're never getting laid. Its why you lead and she follows.

Again, I get the upsides of the red pill life, but the dynamics involved that lead to sex appear unbalanced between the sexes. And I'm asking how can I come to terms with this or is my perceptions way off? Thanks for reading.

Unbalanced? How so? Sure shes got it easy but that ends by 30. Dont forget that each cock you take is a downer on your value but the inverse is true for men. Men also do not expire early nor do they peak early in terms of finances either. We get more total options than women plus the ability to pull incredibly young and hot girls while old ourselves.

You're in the anger stage, i get it, but you have to understand life isnt fair, evolution is the driving force to existence and you only get one shot at life. Now work it.

__Archaeus__ · 2016-01-25T19:11:36+00:00

Oh boy, you still have a lot to learn.

The reason you feel like you have to "change" is because you were rasied under the false pretense that you should be nice and chase women. The BP Disney fairytail.

If you were rasied in a proper "RP" way, you would realize you're awesome (the prize) and not need validation from anyone. You would just do you.

You don't need to be a jerk to attract women. You just need to hold strong to your moral values (your frame), and make women qualify to you. This is your life, and your time is valuable. Why waste it on a giri that isn't adding value to your life.

kevin32 · 2016-01-26T00:20:16+00:00

Thanks everyone for responding.

wickedwildewolf · 2016-01-26T05:53:11+00:00

It is what it is. Reality doesn't care about fair or equal.

The Red Pill is about seeing reality as it is, and using that knowledge to our advantage.

You don't have to change. But you might not get the results you want, unless you do. But really, it's up to you. If you don't want to play by nature's rules to get laid, you can choose MGTOW.

HeadingRed · 2016-01-26T20:52:35+00:00

Why? Arithmetic"

So you can either change or hope that everyone else will. So either you change or become the life coach and project manager for the rest of society.

Title	May I ask, why do I have to change and women don't?
Author	kevin32
Upvotes	5
Comments	12
Date	January 25, 2016 5:52 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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