should I tell ex the truth why I broke up with her

Josewasframed · 2016-02-13T06:52:54+00:00

No.

She's your ex. You don't owe her anything. If you tell her the truth, she will be devastated. Not that that would be your problem, but save her the pain and save yourself the trouble.

urbanintellectual · 2016-02-13T07:05:42+00:00

"We are not compatible at this time in our lives"

If she presses for more, just repeat the above. If she keeps it up then break all contact.

Rorta · 2016-02-13T09:48:06+00:00

What's the odds that she will act on what you tell her?

I'm going to say slim to none. Don't bother, it will be a waste of your breath.

skinny_fat_monster · 2016-02-13T12:34:06+00:00

Some people will say yes, some people will say no.

I don't think it is too harsh to say "You tried to change me and get me to quit the gym; you are messy and are not taking care of yourself or your environment. I am a clean person and I want to live a different lifestyle that is incompatible with yours", or something similar.

GC0W30 · 2016-02-13T17:15:58+00:00

Don't waste your fucking time.

Also, why are you still talking to her?

Messy people are messy people, you won't change them.

There's a chance there will be bullshit retaliation or you'll hurt her feelings. The first will inconvenience you, the latter is pointless.

Focus that energy on lifting, making money, fucking new bitches, whatever.

kempff · 2016-02-13T20:25:10+00:00

What's the point? Do you think that explaining it to her will make her shape up?

No matter what you say she will not hear anything and will instead label you as "being that way".

unleashedhero · 2016-02-14T00:19:34+00:00

I didn't tell her and I'm not going too, she came up with the idea that I'm pledging for a ferterity and me and her will get back together after the process is over hahah. Her best friend is my neighbor and she just told how she is slowly move in her place and making her place a mess. I just laugh and walk away.

Train33 · 2016-02-13T08:11:31+00:00

Although you don't owe her anything and because you don't want anything from her, who cares if you tell her or not? It would have no affect on you either way.

If it were me and I'm the one who initiated the break up I wouldn't have a problem telling her. If she's headed down the wrong path and there's a way to help her then I don't see the problem with that. Just be congruent with who you are. If you think you telling her might benefit her life then do it. If you couldn't be bothered then ignore.

Both answers have 0 affect on you.

Title	should I tell ex the truth why I broke up with her
Author	unleashedhero
Upvotes	4
Comments	9
Date	February 13, 2016 6:44 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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