Advice on bad break up??

marshmallowqueen_ · 2021-02-06T08:21:26+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through such a rough time. You’ve done the right thing by cutting all contact. Keep this up! Remember to block and delete everywhere. He sounds like a low-life scumbag.

As for these ‘friends’ that have since turned their back on you, don’t pay any mind. They were clearly never your friends in the first place. Treat them the same way, block and delete. They will pass information to your ex about what you’re up to if you keep them on your socials. Silence is golden here. Rise above it. They are so insignificant, they are not even dignified of a response from you. You know the truth of what happened and that’s all that matters. (Of course, if things escalate to harassment or you feel in danger then go to the police).

Reach out to family and friends (that aren’t mutual) for support. You’ll need it now. If you don’t have anyone, then post here. Read the subreddits and the handbook. You’re not alone.

It will be hard for some time, but you’ll get through it. Spend time looking after yourself. Read books, watch movies, cry, have bubble baths, eat food you love, reach out to loved ones. You deserve kindness and love - and who better to give it to yourself than you! You will heal from this, and when you do you’ll look back and have learned so many lessons that will arm you for the future.

BabyGothQ · 2021-02-06T10:08:14+00:00

Wow. What an asshole. And so are all of the people who immediately cut you off and took his side without even talking to you about it or hearing you out. I’m so sorry that you have such fake people around you. Thank goodness they’re out of your life now.

Now you can find people who truly care about you, support you, respect you. Who have integrity and know how to communicate properly and honestly. You deserve it.

saint-jezebel · 2021-02-06T13:32:09+00:00

If he is the only one talking about it he will expose himself. If your friends believe them begin putting distance and going no contact. They’ve chosen sides already. Can you change your gym and get a new trainer. The best thing to do is to move on and treat it as effortless as possible. You don’t need to be right; just happy. Also, block your ex.

EveSerpent · 2021-02-06T20:15:14+00:00

It’s actually common behaviour for a cheater to make every effort to get as many people as possible on his side. It’s nothing personal, it’s just how they operate.
It sucks that he’s doing this but on the plus side, now you know who to cut out of your life. All that you can really do is talk to your real friends and take some time to heal. If you can distance yourself from him and the ones who take his side, do so as much as possible.

You will get through this.

Villanelloh · 2021-02-10T12:42:57+00:00

Anyone stupid enough to believe the first story they hear instead of the full story wasn't good enough to be your friend anyway. Block and delete all of them. I would join a new gym and think about putting in a complaint against your old trainer because they are not being professional in the slightest.

Title	Advice on bad break up??
Author	hellomiss789
Upvotes	38
Comments	5
Date	February 6, 2021 4:57 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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