Ex LTR Dumped me for "guy friends"

frick-a-frack · 2019-01-11T20:54:23+00:00

TRP aside, if an LTR wants to hang out with guys, especially in a one-on-one setting, that’s a bad sign.

She may have broken it off with you, but you dodged the bullet.

CainPrice · 2019-01-11T20:48:54+00:00

Sounds like you were getting in the way of her dating life. Also sounds like she would have been a better casual partner than girlfriend.

red_matrix · 2019-01-11T21:22:15+00:00

18 year olds are good plate/fwb. If she’s attractive and her friends are they will be forced to ride the cock carousel due to their collective mindset and their hypergamy will be on steroids at this age. You lost her before you had her. Hypergamy can’t be controlled at 18 in this era. Next time - plate the 18 yo.

Intivel · 2019-01-11T20:51:46+00:00

You were right, if it were a plate it wouldn’t matter but in an LTR you both have to be respectful with each other. You can’t allow that kind of behavior. It’s likely she was fucking one of them.

SeamusAwl · 2019-01-11T21:21:28+00:00

she was tired of me forbidding her for hanging out with her orbiters one on one, was I in the wrong or right for mate guarding against one on one interactions?

Yes.

Her: I want to go to psuedo-Chads for Netflix and chill tonight.

You: Okay, have fun!

Her: I haven't heard from you in days?

You: My girlfriend doesn't disrespect me by netflix and chilling with other guys.

Her: What does that mean?

You: **ghost**

LokiWantsToPlay · 2019-01-11T20:53:07+00:00

Trying to lock down an 18 year old girl with your paranoia and controlling behaviour didn't work..? Who'd a thunk it.

Read Rollo's articles on female mental progression (forgotten the actual name of the articles). You tried to lock down, rather than simply enjoy, a girl with the "free" and partying mindset

UnluckyPenguin · 2019-01-11T22:38:14+00:00

me forbidding her for hanging out with her orbiters one on one

Think many years in the future and beyond that. You go to work to support a family. Your wife is home alone with your kids. Forbidding a girl from hanging out with guys one-on-one is a horrible idea. If you can't trust them to do things when you know about it, what makes you think you won't go insane knowing your wife could be cheating on you behind your back?

Go full RP. No mate-guarding. If they want to cheat, let them. You were never as invested in the relationship as they were anyways. You'd gladly let a low-quality woman filter herself out of your life so you can move on to better things.

MindlessCalendar · 2019-01-11T22:41:06+00:00

You were right, but you shouldn't 'forbid' it. Next time just recognize that kind of behavior isn't something you want to see in a LTR and keep her as a plate max.

alleyteris · 2019-01-11T22:14:47+00:00

Dude ,trust me you should not get in a relationship at this young .

Focus on education and fucking as many women as you can and dont commit until late 20s .

Having said that , let me tell you that no matter the mate guarding ,women will cheat on you if they find a better dude to branch swing, mate guarding shows insecurities in you . Instead of mate guarding you must focus on your dreams and your lifting schedule and let her feel that you have optionas and will dump her ass if she cheats, constant mild dread works in LTRs .

And lastly i wanna close my comment with a saying from my country : if a woman wants to get fucked and you close her in a bottle, she will get fucked with the cork

CharlesChadworth · 2019-01-11T23:00:56+00:00

Fuck no!!!, you are 100% in the right for not wanting your LTR to hang out with dudes.

Never ever fucking tell sluts you hate something. Watch their actions. If you see them hanging out with guys, leave asap.

Example: I don't like to smoke. In a conversation I said this to a slut, to which she says "Oh I hate smoking as well" a few weeks pass without seeing her, and eventually we catch up fuck and she pulls out a cigarette. Asked her how long she has been smoking for to which says "since she was 16" 😂

Look at what these whores do, if they cross a boundary move the fuck on asap.

dream-hunter · 2019-01-11T21:08:38+00:00

Should've turned her from LTR to plate instead of just break up.

volvostupidshit · 2019-01-11T23:47:59+00:00

You were wrong to mate guard a girl who does not deserve to have an LTR status. View this as a blessing in disguise then move on.

Eldudearino89 · 2019-01-11T21:32:19+00:00

Young woman. Move on.

izaacibanez97 · 2019-01-11T23:22:02+00:00

So, I’m friends with a girl I used to hook up with who now lives in another state, and she likes hanging out “one on one” with “guy friends”, and she has a boyfriend who she lives with. She’s openly cucked him and he knows about it, and after a while he asked her to not continue with doing that part, but she can still hang with guy friends. What do you think she’s told me she still does anyway?

Point being, you made the right call.

DWS33_ · 2019-01-11T23:30:45+00:00

any girl that wanna hang out with men all the time is not worth the trust. you dodged a bullet. and she 18. she most likely still have a kid mindset

trpppp123 · 2019-01-12T02:16:54+00:00

Eh, it would've been better if you saw this when you started dating and never got into an LTR with a girl like that in the first place. Likely, you ignored the red flag, and then tried to hide in the sand by mate guarding.

Point being, mate guarding is always wrong, if you need to, then you shouldn't be with that person in the first place.

Aggressive_Beta · 2019-01-12T06:05:35+00:00

You fucked up. You’re right to not want her to hang out with her guy friends one on one because you’re not a cuck. But you can’t frame it that way because you’re coming off as needy mate guarding, and essentially issuing her an ultimatum (“if you hang out with them we are breaking up!”) Ultimatums make you look like a weak, butt hurt bitch and put you square in her frame. She got tired of your beta behavior and called your bluff.

She’s hanging with her orbiters one on one for attention/validation and for plausible deniability in case she’s trying to branch swing. Whether she’s doing it consciously or subconsciously is irrelevant. But it sounds like she already found her next branch to swing to.

What you need to say is that if she’s going to hang out with them, then you’re going to hang out with girls one on one and have sex with them if the opportunity arises. Now she’s in your frame and the ball is in her court. If she still goes and hangs out with the orbiters anyway, then you know exactly where she stands: your commitment is worthless to her, so why keep providing it? You don’t issue an ultimatum, you just dump her and NEXT.

Exodus230 · 2019-01-12T16:21:12+00:00

You messed up.

She will do what she wants..

You cannot change it...

Demote to plate

Feign interest

Ditch when bored

askmrcia · 2019-01-12T01:44:57+00:00

You're 21 and she's 18. Guessing you guys are in college?

Yea this was going to end eventually.

Title	Ex LTR Dumped me for "guy friends"
Author	yungbuck19
Upvotes	13
Comments	39
Date	January 11, 2019 8:45 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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