What happens when you deny YOUR men sex?

2013-10-07T18:19:15+00:00

Due to a very complicated, long story of miscommunication and, well... life happening, I know that my man becomes less and less motivated about life in general as more days without sex go by to the point of just not giving a fuck within a week. This was more or less a reaction that progressed throughout many years(20+) of him not getting *quality sex on a regular basis.

Assuming he isn't getting some on the side, you can count on things not getting done around the house, the quality of his work at his job will suffer, he won't care about his looks, he will have a shorter fuse and might start showing more and more beta behaviour where once stood a strong alpha. He will resent you and it will show.

I can tell you from experience that a man that isn't getting *quality sex on a regular basis will not have the self respect and motivation to keep working hard to provide for his family and be present to his wife and children the way that a well laid husband will.

I would say that 98% of all our fights were fueled from the lack of quality sex. I can pretty much blame everything from illness to losing jobs, friends and family to the lack of sex. No sex = no confidence, lack of self-esteem = illness, isolation, resentment

The relationship will break down eventually and I can only imagine that if you are not madly in love you will break up(and even then it's not a guarantee). I'm so very grateful that I finally was able to understand the red pill theory all the way before we were too old and too miserable to recover from all the damage we caused each other. (we blame psychiatrists, feminists and media for a lot of this and of course ourselves for falling for it all!)

Making it up to him = red pill = quality sex, attention, supporting him

Sex is the most important thing in a marriage, communication being a very close 2nd. If you have these two things going on you can move mountains together.

*quality sex: by this I don't include quickies, blowjobs etc, I mean the type of sex where you both connect( where there's no mistaking you're hot for him, want him, desire him, need him)

2013-10-07T20:38:50+00:00

If for whatever reason I don't feel like banging PIV-style (if I'm sick, typically), I'm still quite happy to participate with my hands/mouth/boobs/whatever.

I don't really think of sex as something I "owe" him, perse (such that I feel strongly compelled to "make it up to him" if I don't feel like fucking)... I like him, so I make a good-faith effort to make him happy, sexually and otherwise. I've never thought of weiner-touching as my womanly duty. He seems happy with the sex life we've got, so I'm not really sure what he'd do if I started denying him sex.

If there were evermsome long term reason I couldn't/didn't want to have sex, he'd be free to get it elsewhere with my blessing.

juswannabeanony · 2013-10-07T15:15:58+00:00

Sex isn't any fun unless both people are into it. If my boyfriend/husband reacted negatively to me occasionally declining sex it would be a deal breaker for me. Being in a monogamous relationship doesn't entitle either partner to sex whenever they want it, it's supposed to be a mutually beneficial experience. I do believe that incompatible sex drives or a lack of chemistry is a perfectly acceptable reason to break up, though.

sugarcrush · 2013-10-07T18:58:05+00:00

Are any other ladies the higher drive partner? He's the one turning ME down. I have a bad habit of pouting afterwards, which I need to work on.

FleetingWish · 2013-10-07T16:33:31+00:00

What happens when you deny YOUR men sex?

I don't. Not even on my period. Nor do I really want to try to find out what would happen if I did.

phasetwenty · 2013-10-08T02:47:43+00:00

To change the frame, one woman catalogs what happened when she resolved to not deny her man sex: http://dontsayno2012.blogspot.com/

End result, she recognizes that it can't work for all couples, but she found it to be the right approach for her.

2013-10-07T16:14:14+00:00

Don't wait until youre in the mood to do it, do it until you're in the mood.

I never say no, though I occasionally try to weasel out of PIV with a Bj offer

2013-10-07T22:11:54+00:00

I know what happens when I don't get sex...I start looking elsewhere. First, it starts as simply looking at other women. Then, I realise that I'm putting myself out there. The next thing I know, I'm actively engaging conversation leading to spinning plates.

It's a pattern I'm well aware of.

Zebraton · 2013-10-07T18:13:58+00:00

Wow, looks like the downvote brigades found this one quick.

Edit: As I suspected, it is now obvious that this post was made by a feminist to troll us. As usual they always go over the line.

Thought experiment: Feminists believe in "marital rape." There's not really any such thing, right?

http://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/1nwjxf/what_happens_when_you_deny_your_men_sex/ccndt7u

Zebraton · 2013-10-08T18:09:40+00:00

Hey Liar!

You are the abuser. I hope you seek help.

DrMrsTheMonarch517 · 2013-10-08T23:05:31+00:00

To OP,

Here I thought I was responding to a genuine concern from a RPW but instead I see you are just another feminist troll. Interesting though, you have managed to get some of us talking about real issues so I thank you for that.

I really feel sorry for you in that you are really projecting the sad state of your own life with these very useless comments of yours. They are not at all informative, a bit funny if you're the type who enjoys watching others make a fool of themselves, but all in all they are just soooo sad. A tiny bit of my soul cries for women like you. If only you could place your bitterness aside and see what you could get out of life by trusting that you too can be loved the way us RPW are loved.

I am hoping that you will keep reading RPW just in case you do have a SO and some of these awesome suggestions slip by your defenses and make your SO appreciate you just a bit more - maybe then you could come back and actually participate in these conversations instead of trolling them.

berryokt · 2013-10-08T05:03:10+00:00

He takes it of course? But I am his kajira and we have consensual nonconsent. There have been very few times I actually struggled

berryokt · 2013-10-09T02:59:14+00:00

Why do we have to put up with this from any woman who doesn't think like us? I get told in real life to speak louder, raise my head, lift my eyes and "how can you act so submissive to (my husband)? Be a real woman!" I'm not a bossy bitch online or in real life and I am trying to learn red pill. Please note that I may not be real red pill, I am just a submissive female to a dominant Master and do honestly consider women the biological slaves of men. I can't escape feminism and being told I'm a victim, not even in our own communities. I think her morbid fascination with us is more than a curiosity, probably a longing. I am only safe from "empowerment" when I am serving my Master. I don't want power and I will beg you to not give it to me. Forgive me if my submissiveness is too much. It is consensual slavery and I am permitted to post about it. I live with four other slave women/kajirae and their two Masters so it is not just me.

Title	What happens when you deny YOUR men sex?
Author	DrMrsTheMonarch517
Upvotes	2
Comments	56
Date	October 7, 2013 11:47 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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