Singer Drops 60 pounds-- and her boyfriend. Opinions?

Pink_acetaminophen · 2014-03-24T20:28:33+00:00

"It probably won't surprise anyone that I broke up with the boyfriend."

Is that supposed to mean that she dumped him because he wanted her to lose weight or that with a better body she could find a new guy? Her own family didn't care about her health like he did. If he was so superficial he wouldn't have started dated her being that overweight in the first place and in the end he changed her life. She should be thankful everyday that he helped her out like that.

rattamahatta · 2014-03-24T23:11:18+00:00

She dumped him because he was the kind of man who would date a landwhale. That's how much he was worth, that's the best he could do. Once she improved herself she knew she could get a man who was worth more so she did.

aaron_the_just · 2014-03-24T20:50:19+00:00

It sounds like he's the one responsible for getting her to start making changes. He was with her even though she was overweight, he just wanted her to improve her looks. He wanted the best for her because it would also benefit him. He was honest....and she dumped him after she lost weight.

There are a lot of missing details, but based on this story - he did her a favor and lost out because of it.

This is a good lesson for men as well - being completely honest will land you in hot water if your woman isn't capable of taking things in stride and controlling her hamster.

spongegloss00 · 2014-03-24T20:41:11+00:00

Well, the boyfriend may have been a jerk, although nothing there proves it. Saying she'd look better if she lost weight is just him being honest. most women claim to want honest men but then get all pissy when men are honest about their weight. Go figure. Just yesterday SO told me to lose three pounds (like in Mean Girl, lol) and I really did not get offended. I'm glad he told me.

But anyway, I'm guessing the point is that as soon as she was hot enough for him, she dropped him because he didn't like "her for her" or something stupid like that. If he was actually a bad boyfriend, then I support her decision but right now I feel like he dodged a bullet.

pinkantlers · 2014-03-24T22:10:59+00:00

she dumped him because she thought he was lower value than what she could get now that her SMV had risen dramatically. thats female hypergamy in action. its exactly why sudden dramatic boost to a womans SMV are seen as cheating tells

sugarcrush · 2014-03-24T21:27:19+00:00

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2014-03-24T23:03:01+00:00

Congratulations to her for losing the weight. She was my height and weight when she weighed 120, which is still a little to chunky for me, so I'm still losing weight.

Although, dumping that boyfriend... Not sure if it was an SMV imbalance issue or if she just felt he was too much of a "jerk" for telling her to lose weight in the first place. Either way, I doubt he was that bad.

buttholette · 2014-03-24T23:31:08+00:00

There probably was more going on then just that. Think we are over simplifying. He could have been super supportive etc... maybe other things were not working out and they were not suited. My ex helped me drop a load of weight and dress much (MUCH) better. We split. I look better. But, that wasn't the reason why. There was other stuff that made us incompatable. Hell at the end of it I just about felt worth enough to be his SO.

sugarcrush · 2014-03-25T00:00:03+00:00

This is a strange situation to me...

By her description, he is a conventionally attractive dude. He dates the chubby girl instead of a similarly conventionally attractive girl. Presumably he was attracted to her since they started dating. But he wasn't, because he says she would be attractive if she lost weight. While that is obviously true, why did he start dating her in the first place then? It's not like she was thin and then got fat, she had been fat all her life and was fat when they got together. I dunno, I just don't get why people date someone who is fat, or smokes, or doesn't want children, and they know this from the beginning and then ask them to change. Just don't do it in the first place, go find someone who you ARE attracted to.

Title	Singer Drops 60 pounds-- and her boyfriend. Opinions?
Author	carrotcake4
Upvotes	15
Comments	36
Date	March 24, 2014 8:17 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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