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What's my problem? Why can't I make my man happy? Is my SMV just that low?

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November 23, 2014
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Title What's my problem? Why can't I make my man happy? Is my SMV just that low?
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Upvotes 0
Comments 28
Date November 23, 2014 6:40 PM UTC
(11 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/2n6o7p/whats_my_problem_why_cant_i_make_my_man_happy_is/
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/RedPillWomen/whats-my-problem-why-cant-i-make-my-man-happy-is.165919
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[–]rpMwafrika19 points20 points21 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

A. Drop him and move on. This is not a healthy relationship. He is not a trustworthy man to be a captain. You don't seem to be in a healthy enough emotional state to sustain a relationship. Work on improving yourself and take a break from dating for now.

B. Troll harder.

[–]TheTerrorSquadEndorsed Contributor1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I am a sucker for a sob story and I was all out feeling for OP right up untill the threesome crap. Your trollharder comment confirmed all my doubts lol Youre spot on.

[–]Bea_Noemi5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

I'm so sorry you're going through this. He is not a good captain and you are a plate. Leave him and work on healing. The emotional baggage you have accumulated will be hard to get away from but you have to put all of your effort into that. It will be difficult and painful, your first everything always is.

You sound like a wonderful woman and I think you'll be fine. But this will take work. Don't get roped back in. This man does not care for you like you need him to.

Edited to express I also think this post is a bit troll like.

[–]meericakes -2 points-2 points-2 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

May I ask how it's troll-like? Sorry, I haven't been on Reddit for long enough.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Every rp trope in your overwritten, short story like post makes you seem like a troll. Your PUA bf has never read a post here if he really recommended you to us, because if he had he'd know we'd tell you to dump him and not be a plate

[–]Bea_Noemi0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

You're using the typical Red Pill terms and are knowledgable about what they mean, yet your question is a very basic, dramatic one. Those two things don't mesh well.

[–]meericakes 1 points1 points1 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

I just don't know :( I'm very confused about what to expect from a significant other and myself. And I use this excuse too often, but this is my first relationship. He's literately force-fed me what I had thought to be RP values about how I don't want him to be completely mine and how he can't be his best self with just me.

[–]Bea_Noemi0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Those may be Red Pill Values but what we are offering are Red Pill Woman Values. Just because a man is Alpha doesn't mean he will automatically be a match for you.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It's... extreme in an exaggerated fashion.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

If this isn't a troll post, you're a doormat. Grow a spine and some self respect.

[–]stillnoturday1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link

I'm going to be honest with you, this guy isn't going to commit to anyone. Now for even the harsher truth you won't be getting over him anytime soon. You could get the best guy in the world but it just won't be him and it will taint that relationship, you might even cheat on the other guy because of it.

So what is the first healthy step, reread what you just typed but act as if it isn't happening to you put your sister/best friend in your position and they are having a guy treat them this way. What would your advice be to them?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Alpha widow in action

[–]meericakes 2 points2 points2 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

I really value my clean sexual and relationship history. So it would kill me to think that I did all the right things during the best years of my life, only to fall into a hole deeper than any hoe on the street. You're right. I've tried to fall out of love and in love with someone else, but it's not him. I can't live my life like that. I feel that my only options are to change my person into what he needs me to be and fall in line.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Why are you wasting your youth being a PUAs plate. This is not what we recommend

[–]TheTerrorSquadEndorsed Contributor4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I really value my clean sexual and relationship history

You dont have a clean history, you jump into threesomes with PUAs lol youre not what you think you are but then again ...troll hard or go home

[–]stillnoturday1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

"I feel that my only options are to change my person into what he needs me to be and fall in line."

If you think that then he was right and you have nothing to offer or to add to him.

[–][deleted] 5 points5 points5 points 11 years ago | Copy Link

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[–]rpMwafrika2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Nice try blue piller. Troll harder! Put your back into it.

cracks whip

[–]TheTerrorSquadEndorsed Contributor0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I like the cut of your jib.

[–]rpMwafrika2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

lol my theory is this is u/nomenculture's alt account. Clearly he/she needs more troll lessons

[–]_pomona_1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Why the hell do you like this guy?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

(Slow clap)

[–]Aluminum_Visua1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

He later got into freestyle rapping and did a verse a girls he slept with and a "bendy" a girl with same name as my bff. My bff was a yoga enthusiast....

If this isn't fake, this is just depressing.

[–]bourkleton1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

freestyle rapping

Dump him.

The reason you are a plate is because you devalue your time and yourself by putting up with this bullshit, and I don't just mean the rapping.

[–]eatplaycrushEndorsed Contributor2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I don't know why people are saying they're sorry for you. You are the one who made the decision to remain in a constant loop of ups and downs, which can also be chemically addictive for us but that's an entire different story.

He is not deeply in love with you. He's only protective and concerned because you give him everything for nothing and he doesn't want to lose that as he realizes other females will not likely do the same and he would have to actually commit to get those perks. He tells you about other girls he has had sex with not because he wants you to know about it, but because he's straight up telling you that he's still interested in sex with other women.

troll or not, this is absurd.

[–]Bea_Noemi0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I expressed that I was sorry she was going through this because it's possible to deliver a difficult message without being an asshole about it. If this scenario is real, this woman is going to go through some major emotional shit if she decides to take the advice and end it. The only way for people to learn is by going through this themselves, and I sympathize with that.

[–]meericakes 1 points1 points1 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

You're right. And that's something that I tell myself and him all the time. "Don't feel sorry. I'm just crying because I put myself here, where I am right now." I take responsibility for myself and my feelings.

But isn't a part of RP about accepting that men will always be interested in sex with other women?

Even though I want to make him better and bring him up from his depression, I feel like I've played my part and played it too well to deserve this.

[–]eatplaycrushEndorsed Contributor-1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

My SO does not want to have sex with other women. He looks and judges their faces/bodies, sure, but we have a commitment where the rules we agreed upon do NOT stray. We would not be in a relationship if my SO or myself acted like this man has.

You need to stop trying to find millions of different ways to justify his behavior.

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