The following is a train of thought and conclusion written to try to understand the struggles of my and possibly other men’s fundamental issue when transitioning from boyhood to manhood when you were raised in a single mother household.

Most people’s personalities it seems is a conglomerate of social communication patterns learned by their environment socially, paternally, and maternally.

It seems that my (a male being raised in a single mother household that moved around a lot in adolescence) personality is missing the socially and paternally so I have a originally maternal personality slowly being entrenched into logic and truth through my study of philosophy and truth which is a bottom up approach to paternal order and personality.

Through this I have developed my own type of personality unique to myself and distinct from my social environment and counter to my maternal personality. To become balanced I must learn to empower my paternal side while lowering my maternal side while still enabling it to thrive when possible and necessary. Through this I might not be able to ever really engage in the social aspect of life successfully or at least to the same level as those raised in a two parent household.

However, it does mean if successful in extending my studies to gain a meaningful and purposeful perspective of truth and logic, i can (emphasis on can, not will) become a great leader of truth and love in a way no one in my social environment has seen before.

TLDR: when raised without the paternal example, you develop a unique one to fit your goals, this creates a unique personality that will be uncommon amongst your peers, but can ultimately still be useful for your life and society at large.