Hypergamy is killing my game.

[deleted] · Sat Jan 4 20:00:53 2014 UTC

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-Anteros- · 2014-01-04T22:20:38+00:00

Remove the impotent rage, flailing and exaggerated faces then try this.

What matters is how you say it. Fuck lying.

Pushnikov · 2014-01-04T22:32:29+00:00

Don't answer any questions about your profession if you think they're trying to validate you on the job.

Agree and Amplify if they shit test you.

If they ask you what you do, just say something totally ridiculous and out of context of where you are - and make sure they know you're joking. If they say "I'm serious", then just distract, "I'm serious too! What's your bra size by the way?"

DO NOT validate on your job. Do not use your job to validate yourself. Do not let them trick you into thinking that your job validates who you are. You are not your job.

A woman asking you what you do for a living is the equivalent of you asking her how old she is and if she has a healthy vagina and if her ovaries ovulate regularly because you want to have 8 children.

Yes, they are totally judging you on it, and don't think otherwise for a moment.

[deleted] · 2014-01-04T21:40:54+00:00

Don't tell them what you do.

mrust · 2014-01-05T04:15:03+00:00

Don't make anything up that will come back to bite you. If you want the focus off work, make up a ridiculous profession.

"I wash ducks" - credit to scottishredpill

If she persists, accuse her of being a gold digger (playfully).

Reddit_SLC · 2014-01-05T08:16:06+00:00

Frame it in a different way. Say that you want to "help children" or some shit like that. Women will get all emotional and love that shit.

Also, I really doubt that it is your job title that is stopping women from sleeping with you. I mean, if everything else is great, this shouldn't be a problem.

If you do think this is such a huge weakness in your game, start practicing better ways of framing it like I mentioned above.

opencover · 2014-01-05T09:53:35+00:00

Why not lie? Say whatever you want. If a girl is judging you by income or potential to decide whether to give it up to you, say whatever you find strategic.

I only give honest answers to proper questions, and I get to decide what's proper. You're not under oath.

The key is to have fun. Whatever comes to your mouth that you WANT to say -- say it! That creates great conversations with females. I wouldn't try it with males, but this is for females.

sirneb · 2014-01-07T06:32:58+00:00

Surely, there is some preselection that could be a turn off to women that you aren't X prestige profession. BUT I could bet you have limiting beliefs on how inferior your profession is compared to X. This limiting belief gives off like a bad smell that repels women.

Months ago, I went to a match.com meetup and I was literally 10 years on average younger than practically all the women there(granted I'm in my early 30s). The frame of the women there were looking for a mate and nothing else. So, whenever age came up, it would seem like they are disqualifying me and the conversation would die. But honestly, in hindsight, I was disqualifying myself because I believed that I was too young for them.

My point is that our belief systems affects the frame we give off and we end up fucking up the interaction ourselves. In my example, I could had framed it like "Okay, these women are a bit older, but are they still cool and fun to have around? Since looks aren't going to be their strongest points, what else do they got going on for them to attract me?" I mean seriously, how can a man in his prime be less attractive to women who are WAY past their prime? How could they be disqualifying me?

Limiting beliefs is very real and will kill our game. I really don't think the fact you are a middle school teacher that makes them feel unattracted to you. I think you are giving off a frame that you aren't good enough in your shoes and that is a huge turn off. Even if in reality, these women are indeed completely turned off by your profession, then do you really want to invest any time in them? Thanks for not wasting my time! NEXT!

[deleted] · 2014-01-04T19:42:42+00:00

I don't think you have to lie, but if you feellike you do, then go ahead. Who gives a fuck?

R501 · 2014-01-04T22:07:36+00:00

I've recently returned to school full-time after getting laid-off so you'd think hypergamy would kill my game too....

Not if you are into bodybuilding.

Hit the gym, brother.

Title	Hypergamy is killing my game.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	6
Comments	14
Date	January 4, 2014 7:34 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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