I'm a woman who is wondering if I've massively fucked up things with my BF? Friends accused him of cheating.

DickTerper · 2018-02-06T17:00:19+00:00

we were FWB for 7 years

That's a long-ass time to be FWBs.

I sent him a long text last night saying I’m sorry and it’s been 12 hours and he hasn’t responded. I mean, it was a long text so maybe he’s taking his time and he was probably going to bed when I sent it but I’m still worried.

Your key mistake was not responding to his texts for over a day after that drama. He is your boyfriend so that's disrespectful.

If you realized your friends were just "blowing things out of proportion" then why did you do that?

Also, keep in mind that you have friends actively working to break up this new relationship you apparently care about so much.

fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- · 2018-02-06T15:43:18+00:00

This seems like the wrong sub for sappy, silly relationship problems. You want that “relationships sub” where the men are always wrong. :P

But, here’s some advice. IF you get this guy to talk to you and come out to see you, you dress in the tightest thing you can find. Put on some high heels. And suck his dick until you’ve swallowed two orgasms. That’s an apology.

cappadocianhawk · 2018-02-06T15:52:04+00:00

If he kept texting you over and over when you didn't reply to him asking about plans, he isn't Red Pilled at all. You're in the wrong place.

However you did fuck up, if he posted this story here we would have told him to ghost you and lose the oneitis.

throwitdownman · 2018-02-06T15:54:56+00:00

Honestly how stupid, who wants a girl who drinks past midnight and has a mental breakdown, when he is out of town?

Raise your hands? Any takers?

McVaghunter · 2018-02-06T15:50:06+00:00

FWB for 7 years... you're in your late twenties I assume. You see the wall approaching and now asking TRP, a male space btw, how can you lock the poor man down before it's too late... If you really care about him, I suggest introducing him to your younger sister.

ReddJive · 2018-02-06T15:50:26+00:00

Correct. Not the place to come to but wtf.

. I feel so badly about this whole situation and my friends are assholes for blowing this entire thing out of proportion. I don’t know what to do now. I don’t think I did anything terrible, but am I missing something

This makes no sense. First you feel bad but you didn't do anything wrong? it's what we call cognitive dissonance. Look it up.

Yes. You did fuck up. You believed a rumor and did not find out for yourself. which means you actually believed it and believe that your bf would cheat on you. Furthermore you believe two people who really don't know your relationship.

if i were him I would not want that drama in my life and yes you would be out. Why would i want to be with someone who doesn't trust me...not that I am going to earn your trust. Trust is given not earned if you were wondering. we give trust until it's proven we can't give it any more...but you decided to not even go for proof.

Your other fuck up is that you are writing words. Men don't react to words. Action is more our speed. If you want to fix this you need to do more then just text him.

RedSkeller · 2018-02-06T15:52:49+00:00

Yes you did. You listened to your friends who had a rumor based off a fabrication and then pulled your bf into unnecessary drama and bullshit. Let's be honest here, you probably loved doing it and all the preceding drama was sort of a fun rush. Congrats on the dumb bullshit and then wasting everyone's time here hoping to hear you were in the right. Grow the fuck up and apologize and stop listening or seeing those friends who want to play real life Sex and the City.

to_glory_we_steer · 2018-02-06T15:53:44+00:00

Your friends are idiots...

FWB for 7 years and then a relationship, how old are you because that's a weirdly large amount of time to take prior to moving to a relationship, not bad necessarily but it definitely needs both of your ages to put it in context and allow me to refine this answer.

And to answer your question, you made a legitimate mistake, based on incorrect information. On the upside, you didn't mess up by flipping and sending him an abusive message. The best option is to play the waiting game and see what his response is.

highdingo · 2018-02-06T15:52:19+00:00

You're friends aren't real friends, they are shit starters. You didn't need to accuse your BF of cheating, blowing him off after your "friends" told you some bs got the message across that you think it's true. (Even if you don't think it's true, blowing him off will give that impression)
What was your "friends" motivation for telling you your bf if cheating on you? What did they have to go on other then a comment about who bought him some drinks? Did they have real evidence or just one stupid comment? If I was your BF and my all that crap happened, and you blew me off like that. I'd be done and move on. Who needs that kind of drama, or a girlfriend who buys into it?

Ou-tis · 2018-02-06T16:27:10+00:00

TRP's mission is to increase men's sexual power and options. Anyone who does not share that goal will be banned the instant we detect them.

That means you must be here for one or both of these reasons:

You are a man who wants to improve your own control over your life, mostly your sex life. You want to help men achieve that goal.

That's all.

What is this shit?

Title	I'm a woman who is wondering if I've massively fucked up things with my BF? Friends accused him of cheating.
Author	dontwantkids123
Upvotes	0
Comments	26
Date	February 6, 2018 3:29 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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