Me [35M] my gf [28F]. Have I found one of the good ones to settle down with or a THOT I should just pump and dump?

jb_trp · 2017-09-01T17:18:11+00:00

The fact that she messaged you on FB and then branch swung to you is a serious red flag. Also, the fact that she moved in with this shitty Chad after a month and they argued all the time, etc., and within a short amount of time she's looking to move out and find another dude shows a lot of volatility and poor decision making, FYI.

Here's the thing about LTRs: They're good until they are not. She'll cook and clean for you and suck your dick every day, until the day she decides she's done with you and it's over (read: Briffault's law). Always keep your SMV high, your game tight, and be prepared for things to change.

Realistic expectations, bro. Unicorns don't exist and you haven't found one. Sure, maybe she'd make a good LTR for a while, but don't ignore the red flags. It's better to figure these things out early before you make a mistake.

nastynickdr · 2017-09-01T17:35:44+00:00

let 5 guys fuck her

times 3

gave blowjobs to another 5

times 3

We've been dating now for about 5 months and it's incredible!

honeymoon phase

I think she'd be a great mom and an amazing wife.

You are never gonna know her "true form" until she has the ring on her finger and popped your kid.

Look, shes not a special snowflake. You are not special. You should be focusing on YOU. This post is all about her. Are you lifting? Eating healthy? Owning your shit? Have a good career, looking for better prospects, doing corses to improve professionally? Do you have a rock solid frame, can you laugh at her shit tests? Cool hobbies outside of your house, good social circle? Are you ready to walk if she starts acing like a cunt? Is your game top notch?

Even if you find a perfect unicorn virgin, if you act like a needy beta spineless skinnyfat weakling she will cheat/leave your ass and make your life miserable. So start worrying less about her and more about you. Be in a position where you can easily replace her with better/younger/hotter woman (women?) if necessary.

I suggest your read MMSLP, essential book for anyone looking for a successful LTR.

replicaplater · 2017-09-01T17:57:06+00:00

Her past behavior is a red flag. Her n-count is probably much higher and she's giving you trickle-truth. She says some guy (read: beta) who saved her from being a whore...reality is she found a Chad who was better and probably fucked him on the side before bailing. Truth hits and Chad isn't such a good catch and she meets you, a possible new victim. Sounds like she knows the impending wall is coming up and is desperate to find a long-term provider. She's trying to tell you she's not a whore, but her past actions are telling a different truth.

Abundance is the key here, don't be desperate and settle down with a chick with MULTIPLE red flags.

Aptote · 2017-09-01T18:10:34+00:00

6 months of college sluttery followed by 9 year LTR and now you?

i'd pass, after a few more fucks

platewrecked · 2017-09-01T18:47:25+00:00

If not want my children to be reared by some guys old "Fuck toy". Enjoy her for now.

thebadmanpuntdbaxter · 2017-09-01T18:07:09+00:00

She understands what needs to be said for you to leave or stick around. Remember that

quicklogaccount · 2017-09-01T18:52:35+00:00

So bro, here's the thing. You've made her look like a nice chick, but not a rare one. I wouldn't say her past is a red or green flag. She's pretty standard for a 28yo chick. What made her look nice was part of this paragraph.

We never argue, she's attentive, eager to please, affectionate, sex most days, blowjobs most days, she cooks, cleans, pays her way, tells me she loves me all the time and actually SHOWS me.

You, on the other hand, showed some severe red flags.

You've been with a chick for five months and you somehow think you know her, you're terribly naive for a 35yo dude;
You're too worried about how many guys she fucked, it hints that you're giving sex a very high value. Everyone fucks these days, sex is free, you can download a menu of local hot women willing to fuck on your cell phone. Sex can't have a heavy weight to make a man enter a LTR these days. Dude if you're obsessing about chick's past you shouldn't LTR ANY chick. Fuck around, this will fade and you'll learn to give sex its due value. And this is serious because it's some issue that you won't EVER manage to work withing a LTR;
You're making it pretty obvious that you're looking at this moment as a "big step" that will be hard to get back from. This isn't true, people change, you change. Look at her, she moved in with a guy, moved out and is dating you now. If things get shitty she'll bail, you need to have this mindset. You can walk away;
You are looking for a chick to settle with. This is walking around some flea market flashing lots of money. Every chick will undergo some serious effort to try to make herself look a perfect match for you and try to keep your eyes out of other chicks. This is not the mindset that will help you find a decent chick. Don't flash the gold and you'll have a better shot at how the chicks you're meeting are really like.

I'd say let this one go - you'll find others like her, mainly in that age range - and look seriously into smashing a lot.

mrHappyPotatoe · 2017-09-01T18:55:05+00:00

Your hamster is working. Lower your investement and soon. Then take a look again. Fuck fast other girls.

Westernhagen · 2017-09-01T19:05:48+00:00

Read Rational Male, Preventative Medicine, chapter 3. This is classic "epiphany phase" - girl who fucked around in her early 20s now recognizes her declining SMV and seeks a "fresh start" with ~~some deluded sucker beta provider~~ a new man.

You will particularly want to read this book if you do decide to marry her, so that you understand the phases that come after the epiphany phase. Hint: "smiles, sunshine, unshakeable fidelity, and endless sex with her happy husband" is not necessarily how it goes.

And apropos of declining standards, "only slept with 8 guys and fooled around with 5 more" could never have been said before the year 2000. My how the definition of "good girl, not a slut, wife material" is changing...

Jsieijejeieokkd · 2017-09-01T22:17:01+00:00

Pursue it, but always be ready to walk out the door.

Title	Me [35M] my gf [28F]. Have I found one of the good ones to settle down with or a THOT I should just pump and dump?
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Date	September 1, 2017 5:10 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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