anyone notice this? Thoughts from a male sex object.

Auvergnat · 2016-10-23T17:23:28+00:00

Alpha Fucks; Beta Bucks. You're in the first category. You have all the traits that makes a man sexually attractive, but you display zero traits that makes a man a good dating prospect.

While some on TRP pursue the belief that you can be both ("alpha bucks", or "alpha with a sprinkle of beta"), the reality is that we tend to fall into either one or the other category.

Some women are on the Cock Carousel with no intention to settle, even temporarily. Especially if they're young (18-23), hot, and on the club scene.

If you want to date, target older girls (24-28) and meet them in day venues.

In any case, you'd need to tune down the alpha traits (the "socially entertaining jackass" part) and up the beta traits a bit (chat, get an interest in her, building some comfort). However, since AF and BB don't overlap much, you can easily fall into the beta category and end up seeing girls holding up the sex in order to get more investment from you

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-10-24T05:35:18+00:00

I seem to fall into the "only for sex" category.

You're a fuckboy. Enjoy it.

Terdmuffin · 2016-10-23T16:44:30+00:00

The top 20% thing isn't a strict line that if you're outside of it women won't bang you. Look up the pareto principle.

zboo1h · 2016-10-23T16:44:44+00:00

I have a recent experience with something like this. I work in the education field and don't make a ton of money compared to some of my friends in the business world, but I do fine and save and all that. I had a woman come over the other night who apparently comes from upper crust and who makes quite a lot of money in the business intelligence world. We had a fun time, good conversation, great sex, and she ended up sleeping over, which I never let bitches do.

I've tried opening her again via text since then and received radio silence, and I'm thinking it's because although I fit her perception of as you said "only for sex".

edwardhwhite · 2016-10-23T23:30:19+00:00

I have this too.

lovespunkslutz · 2016-10-24T11:10:35+00:00

From the good looking loser version of this, you're a little bit too edgy/masculine to get girls to want you for more than sex.

If you want a bit more commitment out of girls, turn it down just a bit.

This is overall a pretty good problem to have, you just need to tweak a bit to get where you want.

Willkuer_ · 2016-10-23T20:48:16+00:00

According to mystery method you need to wait in average around 7 hours between approach and sex and you need to use this time to build (attraction, interest, and) comfort. If you don't build up comfort you only produce buyer's remorse feelings in your girl. I think it's really hard to spend around 7 hours with one girl on one evening... So maybe you try not fucking on the first date?

conotocaurius · 2016-10-23T21:15:40+00:00

You've got it backward, actually. Men will sleep with women that they don't have any interest in dating, and women will date men that they don't have any interest in sleeping with.

In your case, I'm guessing that you "agreeing that you might be interested in dating" is not coming off quite as casually as you're implying here.

Willow-girl · 2016-10-24T01:24:03+00:00

Sometimes women use men for sex, too. Or to put it another way, sometimes they'll have sex with a guy they're not interested in pursuing a LTR with, for whatever reason. Don't take it too personally; it could be just a mismatch in your personalities. (I shot down one guy just because he was a smoker, and I couldn't stand to get involved with a smoker after having lost my mom to lung cancer.) Enjoy the casual sex and keep looking for a woman who wants what you have to offer -- you'll find one! There's a lid for every pot.

Title	anyone notice this? Thoughts from a male sex object.
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Upvotes	6
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Date	October 23, 2016 4:27 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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