I'm 21, 3 girls want to have sex with me but I'm petrified to the point where I can't even meet them in person and they're starting to get annoyed by it, obviously...

NihilDicoAmplius · 2016-02-14T00:57:22+00:00

Funnily enough the answer might be to just get a few drinks deep and go for it. I dont think alcohol can fully solve the problem but it will help you get the ball rolling.

Also realize that no one gives a fuck about what happens in sex unless you do.

I've ripped my foreskin and bleed all over the chick, then finished on her face (blood and cum mixed)

I've failed to get it up so many times, SO MANY FUCKING TIMES that I literally just laugh at it now

Just last week a girl came over expecting mind blowing sex. I fuked her doggy for about 3 minutes, started face fucking her, lost control and cum in 30 seconds flat, and she literally puked all over my cock and bed sheets.

None of it fucking matters.

Your walking around thinking everyone has pornstar levels of prowess in sex. The reality is that weird embarrassing things happen from time to time during sex to everyone.

metallica11 · 2016-02-14T01:05:31+00:00

I fail to understand how so many paralyzed virgins have so many women wanted to DTF them. am I missing something here?

htbf · 2016-02-14T00:43:21+00:00

I'm 26, there are 2 girls DTF that I just need to call and follow the motion and I'm also paralysed by my lack of experience.

GoldenCocaine · 2016-02-14T02:09:07+00:00

Literally stop giving a fuck. Bitches love that shit... you have to own it. If you're really that anxious about it, then jerk off a little before so you don't bust too quick and take a very small dose of anxiety medicine.

plenty_of_eesh · 2016-02-14T01:55:30+00:00

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RedRhapsody · 2016-02-14T03:44:19+00:00

Just do it.

What's the worst that could happen? You can't get it up? Cum early?

Most girls aren't gonna totally cut you off cause of one bad performance, and if they do, who gives a fuck? If she's that judgmental, you're better off without her anyway.

Plus if you fuck up with one, you got two others. Start with the one you like least, that way by the last one, you'll at least have a better understanding of your talents.

2016-02-14T02:36:50+00:00

Do what feels natural. And don't overthink it. Fact of nature is, majority of first times suck - and you can get better mostly through frequent practice.

You say that you are sensitive to criticism and I ask, why? Why do you give a fuck that much? You aren't going to be a fucking sex god the first time, you gotta review the tape afterwards and see what works and what doesn't.

Source: 21 years of age, 4 partners, learned something new from each of them.

wizardgab · 2016-02-14T07:52:42+00:00

People that are saying just don't give a fuck, it's just not that simple. You have a few options, First one is, don't jerk off for like a month, you will get so horny that there is noooo way you won't get it up. Second option is drink a bit of liquor, not too much. Just enough for you to feel a buzz of confidence where you really don't give a fuck. Third option, try some phenibut. Before people start down voting, phenibut is way safer than alcohol and is going to make you feel like a legend.

user5577 · 2016-02-14T09:24:48+00:00

I don't think I'll ever be able to have sex without it sucking, and I know that I'll get better as I practice, but I'm so sensitive to criticism that It would destroy me

You answered your own question mate. Your first time is going to suck. You already know this, so you going to do it now when you're 21 or you going to wait until you're 40?

Get it over and done with, never call the girl again if you have to. Just get it done so you can drop this silly virgin anxiety bullshit.

THERPRP · 2016-02-14T02:42:46+00:00

Before moving forward you need to get your self esteem out of the gutter. Practice meeting eyes while walking. Practice Talking with confidence, and commanding the attention in a given group of people. Then work on not giving a fuck. If you get those two traits down, everything else will fall in line and anxiety will cease to exist.

2016-02-14T06:14:00+00:00

Shut the fuck up. You were created to fuck. Your body and mind are designed to beat the pussy up. Stop thinking, just do it.

2016-02-14T08:20:51+00:00

Send them to me

2016-02-14T09:36:13+00:00

Well you either fuck them, fuck a whore, or die a virgin.

DarkuSchneider · 2016-02-14T11:59:08+00:00

Just relax man. If they are DTF and are clear about it to you, relax, the hard part is over so hit it with condoms always. Tons of guys wish one let alone three girls were DTF at a given time so don't sweat your body/size. Read the book 'Sex God Method' and look online to find interesting sex positions. Then when you are getting it on just try them without asking, just lead and guide her into the positions, silence with action says more than words. Whatever you do never ask for a scorecard during sex, it's a total turn off. She will either looked uninterested or her eyes will be in the back of her head and making all the sounds you need to know she is satisfied. She wants to experience your desire for her via actions not words and experience what YOU want to do with her. If you are doing something she does not like she will usually say so or suggest/guide to something she wants otherwise do whatever you feel like and do not take it personally if she does not like something, she is just communicating. Part of the fun of a partner is figuring out how things come together.

Also, being a virgin you might have a hard time going for more than a short time so do not stress over it, it's natural. Look up a sexual technique called edging as well; basic pacing by getting close to orgasm and backing off to delay it. Do not get too lost in the pleasure and stay mentally focused in the moment or your body will go to auto-pilot and you cum right away. If you cum quickly and she seems like/says (not what you think she thought) she was hoping for more just play it off 'damn baby you got me so worked up I went wild' or 'wanna catch your breath or are you ready for more'. Just go down on her until you can get it up again. Most important thing is to relax and don't get stuck in your head with anxiety and just enjoy it. Have fun man.

TheRedStoic · 2016-02-14T15:53:12+00:00

I see a few options.

pay for sex.
fuck hideous girls (practice) who are completely disconnected from your social circle.
blunt yourself, (alcohol, drugs, whatever your flavor)
go for it sober and amplify everything off. If they're really into you that much you can probably get a few rides each before its over, more experience is great.

Good luck man.

2016-02-14T15:57:36+00:00

I'm in the opposite boat. I know how to Fuck, I like to Fuck, sometimes I wanna Fuck everything in sight, but I don't have girls falling over my dick.

RedThrough · 2016-02-14T17:57:50+00:00

Just do it, guy... find the fucking hole and poke it till your done, you are way over-thinking sex. You can't make good deviled eggs til you can boil eggs properly, shit.

2016-02-14T06:53:51+00:00

Just do, don't think.

How you view your sexual circumstances is shrouded by the way you're letting your anxieties dictate your thought process.

Practice makes perfect. Just keep trying. The first time you will probably cum in 30 seconds. Who cares. Because your going to fuck that girl again and again and again. But the 3rd or 4th time you'll be fucking her for a long while and then start getting creative ;)

Don't take pills or drink too much (one or two is ok if you are really nervous) otherwise it will reinforce negative behaviours that will be hard to break.

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