Girl is mad I tried to hook up with her, can this be fixed? (texts)

dr_warlock · 2016-02-02T03:35:57+00:00

Dont even need to read past the first two texts in the convo.

1) This is classic ASD. If she wasn't 'that' type of girl, she wouldnt have been making out with you and entered the bedroom in the first place.

2) Dont use being drunk as an excuse for your behavior. You didnt do it because the alcohol told you, you did it because you're a man that wants hot pussy. Own it.

3) You made a mistake with trying to reason with her and argue. She was trying to put up a facade to protect her image. Logic is not necessary. It's all bullshit just like all other ASD. Dont try and work with it. Arguing with a woman leads down a road infinite tangents and her feelings.

When a girl says I'm not that kind of girl, you say "I'm that kind of guy"

Do not ever entertain a woman's nonsense. Do not try to help appease her feelings.

You blew it. Next and no more contact. Lesson Learned.

FrameWalker · 2016-02-02T05:29:36+00:00

Dude she slammed you. Have you ever read about shit tests?

I'm not that kinda girl

Well I am that kinda guy

I'm looking for a long term relationship

Perfect I was thinking of a three week fling too

Don't take her seriously. Don't consider girls LTR. Material before you fuck.

What you're experiencing is this lady passing off her slut shame onto you. She's feeling guilty. Best thing is to completely ignore her. Could've shut down the whole thing with "who's this?" after her first text rather than kissing her ass. Oneitis is a bitch huh

wallerprince · 2016-02-02T03:36:01+00:00

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2016-02-02T08:06:30+00:00

Did not see a oneitis post here in quite a while :)

stillnoturday · 2016-02-02T03:48:49+00:00

You're done hang it up.

HS-Thompson · 2016-02-02T13:30:57+00:00

You didn't fuck up the texting, this was hopeless before the conversation even started. She basically texted you to reinforce that she really didn't want to hook up with you. It was like a breakup text, which of course is absurd in this context but girls are dumb that way.

Every single text from her was a variation on goodbye don't contact me. It happens, and whatever fucked it up probably happened in the room that night, not over text. Move on.

SpinPlates · 2016-02-02T06:08:55+00:00

I couldn't read passed the "dinner being too serious"

Why are you giving her the time of day? She didn't fuck you. Move on to the next while putting her on the back burner and throwing her a softball every once in a while to keep her entertained.

EntitledShitHead · 2016-02-02T06:24:05+00:00

I think I fucked up somewhere in the texting. I found out this girl is LTR material through a friend but I still treated her like a hookup. What should I do? By the way this girl is at least a 9/10

Don't get high hopes dude, those cunts usually never are LTR material.

I went through the text message log and you fucked up so bad. She reached out to you with a classic shit test. The fact that she reached out to your first is a good ioi. However, you should have lead the conversation, and changed the topic. Instead, like an idiot, she complained and you engaged her. You would have been better off not responding. This is what you should have responded to the first text: "yeah, you're probably to much of a good girl for me anyways." Then you should have asked her a question that changed the conversation.

Edit: never ask a girl what she's looking for. I know an endorse contributer here recommend you ask that on dating websites, but from my experience, you always get: "a long term relationship" or "idk" which is really just another shit test you set yourself up for.

JimFury · 2016-02-02T05:43:01+00:00

You sounded like a huge faggot with your text responses. And what the fuck do you mean you heard she was LTR material through a friend. Thats not something a friend tells you. Sounds to me like you just have oneitis. Next you came off like a chump. Not salvageable.

Edit: if you sent a text tomorrow it should say "I'm coming off even more socially autistic than the last texts I sent."

2016-02-02T06:17:10+00:00

Nope. You're done, you catered to her when she kept telling you how special she was.

I read that thoigh, it was reeeaally hard to make it through mostly because it reminds me of how I used to think.

She sounded super pissed at you though

mattizie · 2016-02-02T07:57:17+00:00

Read the sidebar. You blew it.

afroose · 2016-02-02T04:59:05+00:00

ridiculous, she try hard to qualify herself. Notice OP all the Investment she did put for a guy that wasn't for her ? In all this shit there was this piece of nutella you received when you started acting like a gentleman " I don't expect you to understand ".

plenkton · 2016-02-02T08:43:25+00:00

Girl's self-value was hurt because you did not push past her ASD. Now she is questioning herself. The only thing girls understand, is what man tells them to understand.

Letsbeserioushere · 2016-02-02T09:44:37+00:00

A really important principle you should consider from this experience is that you should never give in to pressure from other people to justify your actions. This is a key aspect of strong frame.

2016-02-02T10:32:12+00:00

Why the fuck are you trying to reason with her, just tell her what YOU want and let her make whatever move she wants.

mksu · 2016-02-02T12:44:31+00:00

Hahaha, classic.

bittr_n_swt · 2016-02-02T15:58:57+00:00

jesus

read the fucking sidebar. So much verbal diarrhoea, she's not interested. Oh and she's chatting shit when she says she doesn't hook up with guys she barely knows lmao

RSantiago1 · 2016-02-02T04:30:17+00:00

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Title	Girl is mad I tried to hook up with her, can this be fixed? (texts)
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Upvotes	6
Comments	32
Date	February 2, 2016 3:05 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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