Girl says she is into me but doesn't want sex/relationship with me

2015-09-25T04:47:55+00:00

"She's not religious or anything haha."

your nervous laugh says it all, stop making excuses for her and face reality

Blerks · 2015-09-25T04:50:24+00:00

If she had prior relationship experience this might be anti-slut defence, but since she doesn't I think she's actually just scared of the unknown. You can either wait and coax her into accepting sexuality into her life (which she may or may not want to do), or find someone else who isn't afraid of intimacy and not have to deal with the waiting and uncertainty.

If you're into her as LTR potential and she's interested in sex but reluctant, you could help her get comfortable with it by slowly working up to it. Rounding the bases more slowly can be fun too, with the right person. I'd recommend letting her know that you need something physical in a relationship, and see what happens.

On the other hand, if you aren't really that into her, it might be better to look for another girl who wants the same thing out of a relationship that you do. It's certainly the easier choice, and less likely to end up with you feeling blue-balled and trapped.

marriedrpguy · 2015-09-25T10:01:09+00:00

I think you're in for a rude shock at some point if you stay as her orbiter. Once she decides she wants sex, you're not going to be the guy because you're already friend zoned. Then you'll walk in on her banging a random Chad at a party.

Don't waste your time. There are many girls out there.

fnordsnord · 2015-09-25T04:46:14+00:00

No, no she doesn't. You are wrong. She is just jazzing on the attention you are giving her.

A woman who is into you doesn't do this. Go zero contact and chase girls who are into you.

[deleted] · 2015-09-25T04:49:39+00:00

She isn't into you. She might even believe what she is saying is true, but it's not reality.

She would have jumped on your dick if it felt right.

Move on and disappear. You might get a chance to pop that cherry later on. Go fuck other girls either way.

[deleted] · 2015-09-25T09:09:08+00:00

Have you asked her for a relationship/ taken her on a date? Have you been direct about your feelings or are you just pussy-footing around trying to manipulate a quick bang? If you've been direct, then stop being an orbiter and leave her alone. Stop feeding her validation. Go look for girls that will bang you, or girls you wanna bang. Show abundance. Cut contact. If you haven't been direct, then my friend you are in the FZ and need to follow my advice anyway. Cut contact. Stop feeding her validation.

chief_slap_ahoe · 2015-09-25T09:42:44+00:00

Brother she is not into you.

Have you ever had a dog that loved you so much that they would sit on you, nibble on your fingers, take your dirty socks and just be up your butt. That is what it's like when most girls are into you.

stickfiguresk · 2015-09-25T06:56:06+00:00

Virgin girls look for attractive "sure things" they have no social contract with. You're in the friend zone.

Title	Girl says she is into me but doesn't want sex/relationship with me
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Comments	23
Date	September 25, 2015 4:33 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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