How to encourage or push my gf to lose weight faster?

PrettyHandsomeDude · 2015-08-13T21:57:25+00:00

Show her your limp dick.

MentORPHEUS · 2015-08-14T01:48:53+00:00

Positive reinforcement- incentivize the correct behaviors. Eating well, foregoing junk/snack food, exercise instead of sitting on the couch; when she does these well, and organically (not praise-seeking), intermittently reward her.

Be a good example yourself. Eliminate empty and junk calories from your lives. Soda, diet soda, all artificial sweeteners, discretionary fat like excess butter on toast. All hydrogenated oils possible. Artificial coffee creamers and added sugar. Snack foods, beer, many mixed drinks like margaritas. The list goes on; there are LOTS of good healthy tasty foods, its not all granola and sprouts (yecch.)

Do more exercising type activities together rather than just going to the gym. Hiking on weekends, biking a few times a week, walk together even around the block several evenings a week.

Maybe she'll get into it long-term. Realistically, expect her to go through a few cycles of two steps downward, one step up, and don't be surprised if she reaches a much lower long-term equilibrium of diet and exercise than you maintain.

She considers you high value and has stated her wishes; incentivize it a bit for her and make it fun for each other. For this scenario, a lot of positive reinforcement and a dash of very light dread and social proof sound effective.

JackGoldsteinWrites · 2015-08-13T22:17:18+00:00

Most of the time, if weight loss is not coming from instrinsic motivation, it is going to fail.

Maybe dread game can help stimulate that, though.

inaddictaquate · 2015-08-13T21:58:52+00:00

If she's a good girl, you can teach her how to be more effective in losing the weight - sit her down and talk to her about it. Then, you continue to lead by example. It sounds like she's trying, so reinforce the good behavior.

If that doesn't work, consider a next or dread game.

JeffsRP · 2015-08-14T03:02:32+00:00

Dread is the #1 way to get women to do what you want in a relationship.

IanIronwood of /r/marriedredpill posted this to a guy who's wife cut her hair far shorter than he desired. Adjust for your situation.

http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2012/06/curse-of-mommy-bob.html

Passive Dread, AM, and AA.

Start introducing her to people as "My first wife."

Refer to the style as "matronly" and "unfeminine".

When she asks "How do you think that made me feel?" counter with "How do you think it makes me feel that my wife is purposefully doing something to make herself less attractive to me? It's disrespectful to me and our marriage. But it's your hair. You do what you want."

Keep referring to "my next wife".

Give her a cutesy nickname like "Ringo".

Start buying her a lot of hats. When she asks why, pause for a moment, stare at her, and mumble "It makes you look taller."

Start suggesting she go full bald, or at least to a crew cut. Tell her you have an Annie Lennox fantasy you want to play out.

Start using erasable markers to color in longer hair in family portraits.

Buy her a jeweled pony tail clip and then bust her ass about not wearing it.

Have Santa leave a collection of weaves and wigs in her stocking.

Make sure she keeps finding copies of Tangled in the DVD player.

Start looking at tattoos examples of women with long, flowing hair and ask her opinion.

Stop shaving. Tell her you'll take off your manly beard when her hair touches her nipples with feminine grace.

You get the picture. Why would the SJWs point out microaggressions if they didn't want us to use them? In all seriousness these kinds of constant, consistent subtextual messages are exactly the way to communicate to your wife "in her own language". You are giving her the context and negative reinforcement to not-so-subtly convince her that her sexual power in the relationship has decreased. She can't help her saggy boobs and saddlebags. She CAN grow her hair out again.

BrunoOh · 2015-08-13T21:58:49+00:00

What is "some weight"?

I don't know if it matters, but she has admitted that I am a very high value man, and she has said that she wishes that we would get married in the future.

Meaningless. Do you think she'd ever say "You're kind of a loser and I'd like to ride the CC some more before I settle with beta Billy?"

THE__USURPER · 2015-08-14T08:52:01+00:00

Why do you have her as girlfriend if you aren't really attracted to her? IMO that's needy. Girlfriend status should be reserved for girls that you feel genuine attraction and you want to spent time with her. I'm not saying she must be a model, but you must look at her and find her physically pleasing.

You say you're a high value man and you've a girlfriend you aren't really attracted...

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